Ruddhil wrote:
draelynn wrote:
I'm guilty of it too - but I've always known it. I just work hard to not try and trample people. With age came a small touch of wisdom - back in my twenties I would of told my current self that I sold out... Being able to recognise it is huge.
Sold out? Do you mean that you would have thought anyone who allowed someone to be in charge was giving up?
No, I mean that I would have thought that I had sold out my values and opinions in deference to placating others. Being 'in charge' requires a fair amount of psychology and ego stroking if you want people to follow you. Unless you have a large standing army. Then, thats a whole other dynamic.
I like to lead things - teams, things that need planning, any situation where no one will stand up and take the lead - that makes me crazy. But, in order to work with many people you need to consider all of their opinions. In the past, I would have KNOWN mine was the best plan and would have ignored all others. Age, wisdom and maturity. My teenage rebellion lasted until almost 30. I finally started feeling like an adult sometime in my mid 30's.
On the subject of feeling like an adult I feel like in the past 4 years I've accelerated from feeling 4yrs old and not knowing it to feeling around 17-18 at the moment (although in mid twenties). This trend shows no sign of stopping and is a really fascinating process. I understand now why I hated moving schools at 11yrs old for example, because I needed about another 7yrs in emotional terms. It's just a shame that people are only just learning about Aspergers, if it was understood throughout school it would have made so much difference.
27 Apr 2011, 3:45 pm
