Bullying poll

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I'am not big and was bullied some always had anxiety which didn't work to my advantage.

By "emotional bullying" do you mean teasing? Given the general ban on male emotions, I was numb, not vulnerable.

Emotionally/mentally at home by the family, physically at school.

I was mostly emotionally bullied although sometimes kids would throw rocks and other things at me.

At school I was bullied emotionally and also sexually.

From about the age of about 10 I was subtly emotionally bullied by a girl in my class. She wasn't popular and she was rather shy but because she knew I had a label she decided to use that against me. The other girls in the class seemed afraid of her, even though she never scared me, she just pissed me off and made me feel invalidated and left out of the group. I think she was just insecure and spent our whole high school life taking it out on me, and tried her best to convince the other girls to dislike me too. I hated her being in my class.

I was also bullied by my cousin's friends when I was aged 11-14. My cousin was a year older than me and was like my best friend, but she got in with these rather nasty girls who liked to belittle me because I was "weird".

When I was 15 I got sexually harassed on my way home from school by some boys that were 2 or 3 years younger than me. At first they decided they fancied me but I kindly rejected them because I wasn't interested in younger boys. But the crush fad (probably fake anyway) turned into sexual harassment in a bullying sort of way. They kept trying to touch my butt, pulling their trousers down when nobody was around, and calling me names and showing me up. The more I stood up for myself (I wasn't scared of them) the more they started getting aggressive, and they'd do things like trip me up or push me over in the street.

My high school experience wasn't pleasant.

Yes, I was. Both physically and socially/emotionally.

Early in elementary school I tended to throw tantrums and go after people, or when it was the guys who could have beaten me up I'd just ambush them later. Obviously this meant no matter what actually happened, it was assumed I was at fault or at least deserved my share of the direct consequences as well as the strictest response they could impose. By the of elementary school I generally tried to avoid violence since the principal I had treated it with zero tolerance if I was involved.

Most of my elementary school didn't go to my high school so I had no social network at all, but also wasn't being watched as closely. For some reason one of the more common things I ran into was people who would drive by and throw garbage out of the cars at me. I made a point of targeting the vehicle, expressing responsibility and warning that any further responses would be exponential. I got lots of threats against me, but only once did someone actually attempt retaliation. Physical bullying in groups would be responded to individually when it suited me. Bullying friends of mine who weren't willing to get physical would usually provoke an immediate response. I can deal with being treated like that, but seeing other people get put in those situations is a hard provocation to ignore.

Half physical and half emotional. I was small for my age and viewed as an easy target, plus I acted "weird" and few of the other kids stood up for me. (I'll never forget the ones who did, however.) I started picking my own fights with the bullies. Making a nuisance of myself seemed to take a lot of the fun out of it for them.

The emotional bullying continued from both boys and girls through middle school. After that, I was mostly left alone. I was never popular but I wasn't hated either. I learned how to get the teachers on my side, made friends with a lot of guys on the hockey team, and it was smooth sailing from there.

In middle and high school I was bullied a lot. At first I tried so hard to mimic everyone else, to make myself look more like them, act like them, have the same interests, etc... I'd always smile and attempt to hang out with the others, but no matter what I tried they always treated me differently.

After a while I just burned out and stopped trying. One year I just went back to school and didn't bother hanging around the others or speaking to them, instead my time was spent sitting quietly alone off in my own head... which made it even worse, honestly. For instance, during lunch I'd sit in the cafeteria after eating and just try to make myself seem as inconspicuous as possible by curling up and not moving a muscle, so of course everyone is going to point and talk about the "weird kid that's been still as a statue for a half hour straight"

I was never in any fights but people did throw things at me. Paper balls, pencils, textbooks, etc. I was almost smashed in the face with a heavy textbook once, that some guy threw at me in the middle of class. The teacher, who was up at the front and clearly saw the whole thing, didn't say a word.

I tried to mask again, but the bullying and the masking really took a toll on me and caused me to have an increase in seizures (I have epilepsy and anxiety exacerbates that) and I eventually just had to drop out of high school because I couldn't step foot in the building without getting a seizure aura.

None of the teachers cared, the school counselor and my mum had a meeting with me where they just berated me for giving up and told me I was just being defiant and lazy. I wish schools back then had the resources for autism issues that schools do now. Looking back, it was so glaringly obvious what my problem was.

GOOD SHOUTOUT to my awesome 3rd grade teacher who saw me stimming and knew what was up! When he noticed other kids looking at me, he actually came up with a neat little dance that incorporated my stim and called it the Mouka Dance (except Mouka replaced by my real first name!) I remember him just busting out with "Everybody do the Mouka Dance!" and we all danced. I was a lil 3rd grade trendsetter

BAD SHOUTOUT to my 5th grade teacher who saw me spinning in circles and freaked out. He told me to stop immediately and that if I kept doing it I'd get brain damage and die. He came up with similar horror stories about my other stims. It terrified the hell out of me and I went from that to actually-harmful stimming. That was the year I started chewing up my skin as a stim. To this day I still have problems with the skin biting but I'm trying to relearn my good stims that I gave up out of fear.

I was bullied somewhat, and most of the active bullying was during elementary school. I was teased a lot over things like my interests, the way I talked, having issues with my motor skills, etc. Kids also threw things like mud at me and tried to start fights with me a few times. In middle school I was thankfully mostly just excluded from things.

Emotional bullying while at Felsted public school . I was physically and socially award . The catalyst for the bullying ,which started within days of my starting there , was naively admitting I knew little about sex while the other boys were in full bragging mode .

I wasn't around peers often enough to be bullied in the conventional sense (and when I was my experiences were overwhelmingly positive), but my parents were physically abusive. I imagine that the point of this poll is to inquire whether autistics are targeted more often, and I'm of the opinion that this is the case. It probably depends on the environment, though. I think that in certain settings, autistics might be given more license than NTs.

The bullying I have the worst time with is intellectual. People regularly ignore plain facts if seeing them would require a change of mind. Amazingly, this goes for engineers as well as folks from the fuzzy sciences.

I totally agree try and get a engineer to see logic.

Both and I did both too