Whom do you find it easier to talk to

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21 May 2011, 10:12 pm

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People of your gender or people not of your gender? I read somewhere that Aspies prefer the opposite gender (so Aspie boys prefer to talk to girls and vice versa), but from talking to some Aspies I found out that the converse is also prevalent, so I decided to make a poll about it.

I have always been more comfortable around women. I'm not sure why. My youth group was all women, except for myself, and I never really took notice until people pointed it out. One reason why is that I can't relate to the typical masculine banter of males, at all. It's banal, the same everywhere I go. Talking about sex, computers, engines, drinking, injuries, near-injuries, and whatnot. Women seem to explore more, and be open to intellectual discussion generally, more understanding of cognitive differences, as well easier to understand emotionally, or at least more at ease...

Because of the "Aspie" a-sexuality, my family (brother mostly) thought for the longest time that I might be 'gay' because I had no girlfriends until age 19, or obvious commentary about the attractiveness of women. I apparently did not display the correct sequence of behavior, and as a result, a lot of people had begun to suspect I was gay. I suppose this goes to show you how being oblivious to NT roles / expectations can give wrong impressions. It's really that there was so much else out there that was simply more interesting - and the attraction to women I felt was often of an intellectual nature I suppose.

Apparently most NT males would never admit this sort of thing; they feel strongly about their gender roles in society. I have also never understood this whole defense of gender roles guys are so adamant about -- "I'm not gay!! !" and so on. It seems like if you know you are, or are not, that's the end of it. Security is gender is just a matter of self-evident fact. No need to 'prove' it to others in behavior.

This conversation cannot be had with any NT male. They squirm, and avoid it, wonder why I would even bring it up. I have learned this the difficult way.

I agree with you, but talking to women isn't any better. All the stereotypical woman talks about is gossip and other meaningless crap. Either way, it's hard to have a good conversation with anyone.

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21 May 2011, 10:35 pm

It's easier for me to talk to people of the same gender.

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21 May 2011, 10:50 pm

for the most part i find it easer to talk to people of the opposite gender.

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21 May 2011, 11:00 pm

I can usually talk to people of the opposite gender most easily... and I am gay too. Go figure. I suppose that for me it has something to do with shared identity and gender roles since I am so unlike those of my own gender in so many ways.

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21 May 2011, 11:08 pm

Women

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21 May 2011, 11:15 pm

To whom do you find it easier to talk

or

With which gender do you find maintaining cordial relations easier

might have worked better.

Blokes, generally speaking, dislike or mistrust me on sight. Women, I find, are less intolerant. Well, some are - others, generally speaking, seem to dislike or mistrust me on sight.

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21 May 2011, 11:19 pm

Girls that I'm attracted to are the hardest to talk to because it's hard to talk with your emotions racing near the speed of light. Eye contact is particularly difficult.

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21 May 2011, 11:51 pm

Kon wrote:

Girls that I'm attracted to are the hardest to talk to because it's hard to talk with your emotions racing near the speed of light. Eye contact is particularly difficult.

This is true for me as well. But overall I find women easier to talk with because there's none of the baffling male-bonding requirements and rituals to endure. When I talk with men, I usually feel like I don't know the secret handshake to get into the clubhouse.

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22 May 2011, 12:08 am

this poll really needs a "Neither" option. as in, both are equally difficult to talk to.

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22 May 2011, 12:19 am

jmnixon95 wrote:

"Whom" is the wrong word. Using it may make the user feel "intellectual" (for lack of a better word)... but, in fact, misusing it makes you sound the complete opposite.

In this case, it's "who", as it is the subject.

Actually... OP is correct in his usage of "whom". If you rephrase it to "To whom do you find it easier to talk?" or "Do you find it easier to talk to whom: ___ or ___?" you'll see that in this case it is "whom", as it is an object in the dative case. But it can be argued that most people would just say "Who do you find it easier to talk to?" as English is quickly moving away from being fusional and towards being an analytical language. But I digress.

When talking to adults I find it easier to talk to a woman, for peers either a male or no difference (not sure), and for kids it doesn't matter.

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22 May 2011, 12:23 am

By far: people of the same gender. I have a lot of trouble speaking to guys.

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22 May 2011, 1:49 am

i don't discriminate. i'm equally awkward around all sexes/genders. used to be more comfortable around the same gender though.

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22 May 2011, 2:45 am

Neither. It depends on the person.

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22 May 2011, 11:14 am

I prefer to talk to girls.

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22 May 2011, 11:34 am

For some reason I find it easier to talk to women. Most of my friends are women, and any male friends I do have are intellectuals or are quite quirky and unusual.

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22 May 2011, 11:34 am

Women.

I can barely understand most men.

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