as a child, did you use friends' names?

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I remember that I would say friends names to my mom. But she knew all of them, and babysat some in our home. I have a hard time using peoples names to their face, or to other friends. I also have a hard time saying my own name.

it took me a while to work out what you mean, but the answer is "no" (in a general sense).
when i was a child, i was very similar to how i am now, and i can say that when i was a child i was quite formal and i only addressed people by their surnames.

an example may be.....

mum: so who have you got coming over today?
me: that "quigley" fellow.

if people can be suitably addressed by the use of their surnames, then i see no reason to cram ones head with the chore of learning any other names associated with them.

No, as a child I never addressed people by name. First of all, I often couldn't remember it, and if and when I did, using it would imply that we were more than acquaintances, and I certainly wanted to avoid that slippery slope. With adults I could put an end to any unwanted affection of tone by using a chilly Mr. X or Mrs. Y.

I'm much better now. I remember names fairly well, use them liberally and sometimes am even glad to see people.

I didn't use names when I was a child, I guess. I only used pronouns. I knew the names of most of my mates in kindergarten and primary school. Gradually I began to use first names, as I figured it draws attention, and shows some respect. Later it happened more frequently that I didn't know or didn't remember the names of people who surrounded me, I kept asking my mates, screwed it up a couple of times despite that, and I regretted it a lot. Now I try to remember the names of my co-workers, at least the part I interact with more, and use their first names (the short ones, with usually "i" ending) when talking to them.

why would i want to use their names when i have an adequate name of my own?

I always used their name.

I've always been very uncomfortable with addressing people by name, for some strange reason. As a child, I was fine with the terms 'Mum', 'Dad', or 'Gran', but it felt awkward in the extreme to call out any other name...

I'm another one that never used names because I had no confidence that I could remember the correct one. Most of the time when I'm introduced to people I forget their name and even what they look like two minutes after I walk away. I consider this as probably my worst social problem. Even if I've known people for a long while I will sometimes just walk by without recognizing them. Not a good way to give an impression. If say I know them from the Saturday night jam session, which is most of my so-called social life, and can recognize them when I see them there, there is a good chance if I see them somewhere else, like at the grocery store, I will completely fail to identify them. It's like the schemata my mind uses as references are location specific.

I refer to people as "my friend" in conversations... the worst if when I forget that people actually know each other.

Hey.

Me, I've never felt comfortable calling people by their name. Though my childhood friend was one of the few exceptions I think.
Among other things, it just feels too familiar. Yeah, awkward.
I've had those times where I have called "Hey!" etc.. to avoid having to say someones name

I find it hard to address people by their names in front them, but i can when talking about them with someone else.

When I was a kid, I always spoke of any friends as, "my friends(s)". I also never said "Mr/Ms." when referring to a teacher or adult; I'd get adults' attention by saying, "hey, I need some help over here!" repeatedly.

till date i dont use peoples name when talking about them to someone.
i dont know why???? but now i need to research about it

exactly the same for me for people that I know/like. If I don't know someone or don't like them I seem to be able to use their name

I still dont...

Everyone is already my "friend" - kind of my default position with all people since I can't do that whole "gradually get to know them, divulging information gradually and prudently" process that normal people seem to go through. I treat everyone automatically as familiar and fellow human creature.

But no, I am always uncomfortable using names. Always. I never use them, even with lifelong friends and family members. It's awkward even saying my brother's name. And my own, for that matter.

Honestly, I don't feel like a distinct thing. I don't ultimately feel separate from everything, like an autonomous entity. I feel as though that whole concept is incorrect. I am an element, a participant in my environment. Not separate from it. Every time I use a name I emphasize this make-believe distinction unduly. (Really weird, I know)