Getting angry at emotions

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When I see others getting emotional, like crying, I feel like slapping them. Like when my mother cries, I get very angry at her and scream at her. Same when I was in group therapy. If they start breaking down and crying, I feel like kicking them across the head. I don't know why?

I definitely feel this. I'll find myself getting embarrassed or angry or something over something menial, and I'll become upset with myself for feeling that way.

It's kind of like I can't stand the fact that I feel very shallow and immature emotionally.

Thanks for all the replies (and sorry for disappearing after I posted). For me, I think it does relate to not being in control of how I feel. It's sort of like my logical mind and my emotions don't communicate well with each other, so I will feel emotions but not understand logically where it's coming from, and I find this very frustrating.

I don't get angry at other people's emotions, but I do tend to want to immediately remove myself from their presence when they are emotional. The term bat out of hell comes to mind. It's mostly because I don't know what to do or how to react. I do, however, get angry at the little cartoon sad face that comes up when I'm getting close to the time limit on this game I play.

My own emotions are infinitely confusing and frustrating to me, and I am not that good at dealing with them appropriately. If someone upsets me, I get very angry at myself for feeling hurt, rather than at the person for hurting me and turn that anger inwards. If I feel any warmth and closeness to another, I find I cannot show it in words or actions other than by perhaps doing practical things for them, and this is another source of frustration for me as I want to be able to show love. I have been on the receiving end of the Aspergers anger response to my own emotions as well, and yes, it does indeed cause relationships to breakdown. Imagine what happens to the person who risks showing their hurt at something another aspie has said, only to find themselves on the receiving end of a load of angry words... not very productive at all.

I do not get angry at the emotions of others, I simply tend to get anxious and panicky and have no idea how to react, what to say, what to do, and generally retreat to another room or place.

I sometimes get angry at myself for feeling emotions. I frequently experience a sort of disjunction between what I feel and my inner "logical" dialogue. For example, I know logically that some issue is trivial and that no matter how bad it is, it will pass. However, I get angry that I can't communicate that to my emotions. So there are times when I feel sad and I make the situation worse because I get mad at myself for feeling sad. The worst is when I feel an emotion and can't explain rationally why I feel that way. It's "irrational" and that bothers me more so. This happens most often when I'm very tired, hungry, stressed, etc.

I'm trying to work on being nicer to myself when I am feeling down, though, and just accept that there are times when I won't be happy. Feeling emotions is part of being human. As much as I'd like to turn them off every once in awhile, I know they are here to stay and won't ever go away completely. The key is just learning to deal with them effectively.

I must agree that this recursive problem can be frustrating. Logic is much simpler.

As somebody who tends to feel emotion more deeply than most do, and as somebody who places a lot of value on reason, I regularly feel frustratated with myself for falling prey to 'silly indulgences'. My anxiety, in particular, has a very irrational character, and attempts to reason my way out of it are generally just overpowered by emotion. It's not a pleasant way to live, your values being forever at odds with the way you feel...

I don't like being around others when they say things that are negative and cynical. I feel like I should tell people to stop the negative emotion, because feeling down in itself is oftentimes useless and always physically draining. The reason that I don't tell others to cheer up is because I never know what the person's reaction would be - not trying to make someone feel any worse than they already do.

I find it has alot to do with control, The more control you get the more you need. spontaneity is the most irreducible factor in exsistence.
I personally hate it.

I try to gain as much control in my life as I can, and when I find that something I though I had control over, I actually no control over at all, it's like my mind goes to infinity with the most destructive powerful emotion that my body can express.

I guess even though anger and aggression isn't constructively productive, It gets results, even if they are negative
(and then you have to deal with the awful ramifications afterwards).

But yeah I find I spend most of my life In a state of anger.

I don't think I will ever be free of these emotions until the world is purely logical and synchronized.
I feel happy knowing I'm not the only person going through this though

i agree with that. When someone else is upset or crying, it makes me very angry. I just want them to stop. I know I am supposed to do something, but I don't know what it is or how to do it. So it turns to anger.

It is reassuring to know that other people are this way, and I'm not the only one who has this experience of emotion.
I've been made to feel very guilty in the past by others when I would react with anger or confusion to their display of emotion. They said that I was being cold/uncaring/mean/etc. Of course, inside I was nothing of the sort, but they would continually tell me that my external reaction lacked any trace of warmth or empathy and that I was being cruel or emotionally abusive to them.

I sometimes wonder about the legitimacy of my own emotions when others routinely perceive them as coming across in a negative way.
Is that really what I feel? or is it just a big misunderstanding?