Aspergers is like a bad dream, but you dont wake up

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Not really. In my nightmares, hypognogic nightmares to be more precise, my life is in imminent danger. And I believe it until the sun rises.
Seizures put a damper on things too. The loss of motor function and the pain my head experiences, the following mental fatigue, short term memory loss, temporary paralysis and slow recovering from motor control are definitely worse than my autism, which is a little bit more than not fitting in socially. I'm incapable of taking care of myself.

Only before I was diagnosed - especially when I was a lot younger, and had no idea why I was just so damn different from everyone else. A proper diagnosis has put my life in perspective.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

It. depends. on. what. traits. you. have. and. how. high. functioning. you. are.

There are people here I can see are a lot more functional than me, and in turn, I can see I'm a little better off than some of the posters here. Not everyone is effected the same way. And if you're sick of people saying things would be perfect without aspergers, I'm sick of people like you accusing people of saying that. Who ever said being NT would be perfect? It wouldn't be perfect. Life gives Hell to everybody. But dealing with aspergers and the bull s**t discrimination it can bring on top of it, just makes it that much worse. We need support to get through times and alleviate stress, and finding that support can be an ordeal in itself when you're on the spectrum.

And how about somebody who not only doesn't have a diagnosis, but is walking around unaware it exists? And I've felt like the OP before. Many times. There's just times when you know there's a problem that needs to be solved, and nothing in the world seems to work. And you have NO idea where to look or who to turn to. THOSE are the moments it feels like a waking nightmare.

Prayer has helped me immensely, but I'm finished getting smacked down here on WP for having belief, so I don't share it.

Hm... hmmm.... no.

The black high school athlete has the same difficulties as the autistic kid who flinches at fluorescent lights? The beautiful hispanic girl who has a close knit group of friends and sometimes suffers racial stereotypes can relate to the aspergers girl who nobody wants to sit by? The gay dancer who can make everybody laugh and has excellent motor skills is on the same playing field as the awkward autistic guy who can't even manage to brush his own teeth? The Atheist who is otherwise clever and snarky loses a few friends when he admits to being Atheist, and he's really as bad off as the autistic fellow who struggles like Hell to hold a conversation for a minute? You can't quantify others' experiences, but being a biracial man in Arizona, I'll tell you what, my spectrum traits have caused me a LOT more frustration than my skin color. By a LONG SHOT.

As a black male who grew up in a rural town in the Deep South, I would have to agree me having Asperger's causes way more issues than me being non-white.

So if you want to compare your status to someone in a different minority, don't compare yourself to a black person now; compare yourself to a black person in, say, 1930s America; or to a gay person in 1960s America, or to a wheelchair user in the 1980s. Or to a 500-pound person today. Yeah, that's right. Fat people are just barely starting their own civil rights movement. Just like autistics.

Bottom line: There's nothing about autism in particular or disability in general that makes life worse. It's that the world isn't arranged in such a way that we can find our own places in it. Are there bad things about being disabled? Yes. But there are bad things about LIFE. I'm really pretty tired of people going, "If only I weren't autistic, everything would be perfect..." No. No, it wouldn't.