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Maje
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12 Jun 2011, 4:48 am

Sorry, have to delete it, because I dont know how to explain it yet



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14 Jun 2011, 10:22 am

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One thing Ive noticed about myself is that my knowledge of social situations and ability to read people is much higher then my ability to perform in social situation. Ive told friends, I'm much smarter then I seem. I'll understand that someone is bored, annoyed, trying to end the conversation, humor, implications, etc. But me actually going out and socializing is a whole lot different. I know Im suppose to do certain things in theory but I still dont do them. I know how Im suppose to act more then I actually act. And sometimes when I have problems with people, I will know that their frustrated at me but I dont know how to appropriately respond.

Edit: I can even give my NT friend decent, practical advice at times for situations they deal with. Could I actually apply or even think of the advice if I was in the same situation...most likely not. Im just hoping that my NT friends have enough sense where they can know how to apply it.



I'm not clueless of any social knowledge either. In fact, the social part of my AS is like the equivellent to a shy NT with social phobia. I am very quick on the mark with reading body language, face expressions, and especially tone of voice, and I don't interrupt nor do monologues, and I especially don't talk about my special interests (in fact I talk more about my anxieties than special interests). I also haven't learnt these specifically - it all just came naturally to me as I grew up, like it does in NTs.
The only social interactions I mostly have trouble with is joining in group conversations, thinking of something to say quick enough, standing up for myself in an unpleasent situation, asking people questions in conversations, and I actually struggle to do monologues. I've never been the dominent one in a conversation, nor have I been the one who is speaking the most. The only person who I've spoken the most with is a friend I used to have who has severe learning difficulties. I can easily be the dominent one with him (although I never took the piss. He was just easier to be with because he would never judge me or anyone else).

But all this doesn't mean I don't have AS. There are plenty of other traits I have what are enough to make me a typical Aspie. I am a female with mild AS, so that might be why my social knowledge isn't affected too much. But I still struggle in social situations. That's for sure. And I do make social mistakes from time to time, like saying stupid or inappropriate things. Here's one example:-

NT 1: My glasses have all steamed up
NT 2: Oh dear
Me: That's why I don't wear glasses
NT 1: Yer well it's not like I have a choice
NT 2: That's right - we don't have a choice
Me (thinking): Oops - why the f**k did I say that?! !! !! ! :oops: :oops: :oops: :wall:


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