Opinions on SO having Aspergers
The robotic walk is hard to explain, its almost if u picture a very cliche "buff" guy walking and pushing each shoulder back and forth as he walks...and staying stiff in his whole body. Its like he is trying so hard to walk 'normal'. Because u can tell he is actually THINKING about how he is walking instead of just "naturally" walking.
Yes echolalia is part of the copying example. He definately repeats what you say before he can answer. Example: Someone would say to him "What is for dinner?" and he would reply "What is for dinner? Uhhhh steak is for dinner". He also always starts a sentence with "uhhhh" . I think that is part of his so called "5 second rule". Maybe he is stalling to find a response that doesnt sound "stupid". Also I think he has a delay because he is processing what is being asked.
The other part of copying that I mentioned is when his friends have an interest in somethng...he will have that same interest all of a sudden. When I love something or have interests, His become the SAME as mine. To the EXACT. Just mentioning it because I heard that was an example of aspergers as well.
As far as depression goes I definately dont think he is depressed. He is the most "happy-go-lucky" guy I know. Always happy, smiling, positive, etc., He is always telling me how happy he is we are together. I have never suspected depression with him tbh.
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It also sounds like he has a language based learning disability which kenneth rudder, who is a leading autism expert, says that autism is the mother of all language based learning disabilities.
ask him this question
HOW does he think?? Does he think in pictures, or fragmented pictures with words, or words alone or fragments of images and words
not all, but alot of people with ASD's think in pictures or partial pictures with words...this might explain his 5 second rule, if he is translating words someone speaks to pictures in his mind and back to words to reply...which is what I do, it could explain his difficulty communicating verbally. however online communication is mostly visual, so it is easier to commucate that way.
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It sounds like he could have sensory issues with vestibular (inner ear) and proprioception (motor skills). Is he very clumsy? (i.e. He bumps into things and doorways.) People with AS tend to be either hypersensitive or hyposensitive to these senses. Your list also says he has a bouncy walk...so he walks both bouncy and stiffly...that's got to interesting to see.

In that case, it's defiantly a trait for autism.
Interesting, I've never heard of that. Where did you find that out from?
Then he's probably not depressed. It's just 'Trouble staying motivated' sounded a bit like depression. Although it could be something entirely different such as ADD or nothing at all.

lmao that made me laugh

He would have a slight boucny walk when I met him and one day I pointed it out. He said his brother always said he walked funny too. So he started trying to change it a bit. It doesnt look so funny anymore lol. But its more of a stiffly walk now. Again I think its because he is also trying so hard to walk "normal".
And yes he is clumsy. He walked into a door on two different occasions that left him with a bloody lip. He has bad balance that Ive noticed too. I think he may lack the touch sensory. When he is walking in the dark, he with fall over everything also because he lacks that "intuition" of whats around him.
I hope this doesnt paint a very bad picture of him . I am just trying to see how this all adds up. I am pretty sure now its aspergers. I think after him reading all this info on here, he is starting to realize this too. Thank you for everyone trying to help, its truly a blessing to find this site.
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lmao that made me laugh

He would have a slight boucny walk when I met him and one day I pointed it out. He said his brother always said he walked funny too. So he started trying to change it a bit. It doesnt look so funny anymore lol. But its more of a stiffly walk now. Again I think its because he is also trying so hard to walk "normal".
And yes he is clumsy. He walked into a door on two different occasions that left him with a bloody lip. He has bad balance that Ive noticed too. I think he may lack the touch sensory. When he is walking in the dark, he with fall over everything also because he lacks that "intuition" of whats around him.
I have that same problem in the dark...it can be very disorenting. When I lived in IL and the power went out from the crazy storms there, I would fall to floor and start screaming....although, I am better about it now...and smarter, cause on stormy nights, I keep the flashlight nearby
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I was convinced that my husband had Aspergers, or at least some significant traits. He even has that bouncy walk, face blindness and probable dyslexia (which I know aren't mandatory for Aspergers, but are often co-morbid). He doesn't have major sensory issues, however. Anyway, I persuaded him to do a couple of on-line quizes last night. Both of them gave the result that he was well and truly NT, not even borderline. I'm stunned and can't believe he answered the questions truthfully. He did say that maybe he sees himself differently from the way others see him. I'm going to ask him to do a personality quiz tonight, to see what answer we get.
Hello everyone, and thank you for all the well thought out responses to Elora's posts. I am Elora's SO (lucky guy)and would like to learn about AS and what solutions and techniques I can use to deter unwanted behavior. As she has already said I have quite a few characteristics of AS.
I am a very visual with things. If I see it im 2x more likely to absorb the information than if I hear it.
I have a really hard time with explaining myself and sometimes I get lost in my own explanation.
I used to walk on my toes and I think I figured it was quieter that way and continued up until I met Elora and began trying to change it. She tries to help me walk right but I haven't had great results. I also have flat feet, if that matters.
Lol, funny guy madao