Have you been love pranked?

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About 15 years ago, I came home from school to find a letter pinned to my mailbox. Addressed to me. It smells like perfume and it has a kiss on the envelope. I open it and it's handwritten in a beautiful, flowing style like I'd imagine a girl my age would write. The letter says I have a secret admirer! I read and reread the letter again and again fantasizing about who she was. Finally, my brother takes notice and begins laughing uncontrollably. He and his friend got a girl to write the letter and I completely fell for it. When I finally found out, I was crushed. It absolutely broke my heart. People suck.

I don't think I ever recall anyone pranking using the word "love". That's just too obvious, especially if you don;t really have much to do with the person, then it becomes freaky.

I was quite shy at school so around 14 some of the girls used to physically stroke me in the library and follow me around touching my jumper and hands making me go bright red!

I secretly quite enjoyed it but realised they were picking out the nerds and losers and getting their kicks making us feel embarrassed. Unfortunately that phase didn't last and I had to wait 20 years before I actually touched a girl again.

I wouldn't have a clue. Girls have never approached me apart from some of my recent internet datings and situations where I was totally clueless, or maybe I can't recall one. On the few rare occasions when I did approach a girl in my rather stupid and unpleasant ways, I was always rejected.

I'm more concerned about my naive personality and my lack of experience now, since I fear I would be very fallible to such an incident If it would occur to me once, finding me totally defenseless...

Yes I've been pranked a time or two. But AFAIK it's not been like a simple sadistic bullying exercise - more a case of my getting too close to women who have serious issues and (presumably) don't know what they're doing.

One was a lady I wrote to in the "heart-to-heart" column of a newspaper. She lived some distance away and she said she wasn't ready for a relationship but just needed a close friend....I figured she wasn't really saying it was out of the question forever, after all why advertise in a heart-to-heart column for a member of the opposite sex unless you're ultimately looking for a partner? We exchanged a few really nice romantic things, but never met, and then she told me she had a boyfriend...... I ended our "affair," taking trouble to try and explain kindly why I couldn't go on. She was livid and wanted to continue. Probably not a deliberate prank on me, perhaps it was a prank on her boyfriend that she couldn't get my support on.......apparently her parents had separated her from her first boyfriend when she'd got pregnant by him, and forced her to have an abortion, so maybe it was something to do with that, but she never acknowledged any connection. But we'd raised each other's spirits a great deal during the few weeks that we were communicating, and it felt completely wholesome, so although I was pranked, I didn't really regret it.

I have about 3 or 4 examples....in each case there was a guy in the background I wasn't told about. One time the other guy KO'd me....that lady really was a trickster, that was very early on in my career. I think she was just trying to get a rise out of her bf. But the rest of the examples were probably just down to my failure to realise when the attention I'm getting from a woman is pathologically driven.

Kids tried to make fun of me in the first week of high school by telling me that a boy fancied me and wanted to go out with me. They thought I was gullible, which I'm not, I just give that impression. The boy was similar to me and they were trying to prank him too. Anyway, I already had a boyfriend (best friend throughout primary school) and told them I wasn't interested as I was taken. At 11 yrs, boyfriends are just friends. Their prank backfired.

Sounds like me.....like on the outside it's "oh really? Yes, of course I believe you" while on the inside it's "pull the other one, it's got bells on."

A few guys attempted to ask me out as a joke, they were unsuccessful. I figured it was a joke. I remember in 7th grade guy from my homeroom tried to ask me out, I could hear laughter in the background, I just flat out told him no several times.

There were a few girls who tried it on me, and I did start falling for it, but I figured it out before it went to far because I overheard them joking about what they were doing to me.

There was the other time I got a secret admirer letter and a whole bunch of people claimed to know who it was, but wouldn't tell me. To me that made no sense, it seemed like everyone knew who it was but me, which made me think it was all a big joke.

Then there was the girl who asked me to go roller skating with her, but she made sure she asked me publicly, loudly, in other words making sure she had an audience. I refused and she got all upset about it, and others tormented me for turning her down.

Then there was a blonde airhead who would make fun me of all the time and one time when I told her off, she threatened to get her boyfriend to beat me up, and then later she tried to get me to go to a dance with her. I refused her as well.

There was another one who begged me to go to a dance with her and also refused. I knew she was lying to because she also made sure she had an audience when she asked. She even wrote me anonymous notes asking me to show up at the dance, and of course, I had wised up by then.

This garbage is all part of being a social misfit. It happened to me once, but I never fell for any of it again.

I have it a fair bit, but I've never fallen for it. One girl does it a lot, and is persistent, acts offended if I reject her, etc. She often does it in front of her boyfriend.

Not using the word love, but yes. Quite often in jr. high.

Unfortunately, this lead to me treating a couple of girls very cruelly when they tried to ask me out later in life. I only figured out later that they had been serious...

Nope, never. I've had several females actively pursue me, though, and one might claim that I "love pranked" her, but I was just really unsure about her.

Can you tell when you're being flirted with? Do you know how to respond?

Here's an interesting story along the lines of this topic:

Violent Acres - Love, Shame, and the Human Pecking Order

Yes, I know what you mean. I'm much more likely to be scared out of my wits, then non-committal at the time through fear, then afterwards get angry and pull the drawbridge up and the defensive mode kicks in.

I can safely say I was once or twice in high school, though I can't recall specific examples.

Yeah, my reactions were:

* Confusion
* Fear

My issue was everything I had learned about teenage dating was from crappy teenage movies, so I assumed everyone wanted sex and the idea of sex was (and remains) unappealing to me. I don't remember how old I was when someone finally explained to me that "wanting sex on the first date is unusual," and this was after I'd been on several dates already (some of which I didn't realize were dates).