Are Most Aspies Good With Babies/Kids or Not Like Them?

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I don't know what to do around babies and children. Sometimes they walk up to me and just stare at me and I have no idea what to think, say, or do. It's just extremely uncomfortable for me. Maybe it would go away if I spent time around younger children, but I cannot even tolerate the thought of that. Babies and children are too needy and annoying. I don't really think babies are cute either. I hardly even know what cute means.

I can't stand children.

Whenever I'm at the library, there's ALWAYS loud children around; I must be cursed or something.
The mother will say something to the effect of: "Now now, you really shouldn't be screaming honey".

And of course the little monster will gleefully ignore her and continue his audial terrorism, all the while displacing books and grabbing everything it can get its greasy little claws on. Sometimes I can barely restrain the urge to play post-natal abortion doctor.

Hate babies with a passion. Generally dislike children though they can be OK in small doses. More often than not it's the parents who are the problem rather than the kiddywinks themselves.

I'm terribly paedophobic at the best of times.

Add me to the can't stand kids and pregnant women group.

Lot of pregnant women are b*****s and too many of them use it as an excuse to be one, same as eating like a pig and then complaining about their weight they have put on because they also use it as an excuse to eat junk food. I couldn't stand them either on Babycenter and now that they have had their babies, now the birth clubs I am in are more calmer lol and no more food porn where you spam threads with pictures of junk food. I never understood that behavior because it was annoying and stupid and I didn't see the point in it. But there are still meanies.

yeah, banging around hopped up on sugar and additives and sponge bob and toy advertisements.... yeah, who wouldn't want to be around those horrible monsters? *sarcasm*

As for children, it totally depends on the individual child. The thing is, i refuse to talk to kids all that much differently than I talk to anyone else. I also have the attitude of, "you're not even a person yet, so don't talk to me like what you say is important or definitive. Your information is likely based on faulty assumptions due to lack of experience."
Children generally understand this sentiment better than adults, hilariously. Entitled/spoiled children become angry. Properly raised children accept their inferiority and we can have quite edifying conversations from time to time. My six year old nephew and I have moments where we are in agreement about various observations we have made about people, situations, or natural phenomena. My mother and sister sometimes express surprise that he is able to follow my conversation, but rightly realize that if you raise your expectations, children will generally meet you on them.
I don't have a problem with pregnant women, but the idea of becoming pregnant myself is one of the most unnatural and repulsive things I can imagine.

When does a child stop being a child then? As a teenager, I refuse to accept this supposed inferiority (I guess this usually comes with adolescence).

When does a child become an adult and no longer inferior?

For some reason, kids love me: they are frequently smiling at me. While I'm much more willing than other adults to play with children (maybe my own hyperactivity has something to do with that), I absolutely hate crying or misbehaving children. On the other hand, as pathetic as it may sound, I can relate better to children than adults.

I will NEVER have children.
Yesterday, my family and I had people over and one of the couples brought their baby over. All he did was scream and cry. They need to invent baby Benadryl to shut them up. I don't mean to be harsh but I can't stand kids and babies.

I'm usually willing to grant provisional adulthood between the ages of 12 and 16, depending on the individual. I expect a reasonable level of sentience for all individuals over 18, although I am often disappointed in that expectation, as I'm sure you are.
Factors in respecting young people include self-awareness, self-control, intelligence, and the cultivation of unique interests or observational technique and use of language. for example, my nephew has a penchant for mixing together various substances and describing the results. He can explain with confidence why he chose to do so, and yet thoughtfully considers my opinion on his decision. He observes that I lose interest completely when he reacts emotionally or throws tantrums, and restrains himself during his interactions with me. He seems to enjoy my company very much. I value his passion for mixing things together, and his way with description. We get along well.

For me, becoming an adult has to do with acquiring self-awareness. I realize that according to this criteria, some people never become adults. This holds true; I have met legions of overgrown children. i do not choose to become friends with them.

I can't stand children. Even as a child, I could not stand babies and other children. I made up my mind as young as four years old that I was never going to get married, let alone have children. I had to have a hystorectomy back in January because my periods were so thick I was getting anemia from them. I do not regret having it. It always repulsed me when I saw babies with smeared on food on their faces...to the point of making me vomit. I could never pick up a child either. I perfer picking up my lizard and cuddling her. I don't mind handling animals but babies and human children repulse me.

I love babies and small children under the age of 4. They're innocent, untouched by societal bias and non-judgemental. I've always been pretty maternal toward baby creatures though, human or otherwise.

I generally dislike babies and children; I find them too noisy. I've sometimes had to leave shops/stores due to young children screaming their heads off - I find the noise too painful to bare.

I love my niece and nephews, but I don't really care for children who are not related to me. A career as a daycare worker or teacher would be a nightmare for me.

I connect well with my niece who is 15-years-old and has a quirky, goofy sense of humor, and my 5-year-old nephew who was recently diagnosed HFA/AS. He reminds me a lot of myself as a child. I feel like I "get him" more than most people do. My 2-year-old nephew, on the other hand, I love, but have difficulty being around for very long because he is so loud and hyperactive. He is very strong-willed and impatient. He has tantrums. He likes to climb and jump off of things (has no fear). He has already fractured his elbow and wrist. It takes intense concentration to keep up with him, and I cannot maintain that focus for prolonged periods of time. It is mentally and physically exhausting. My niece and other nephew were not that way at his age.

I am 35-years-old and my biological clock is ticking. I would like to have children, to have my own family, but I often have doubts as to whether or not I could really handle it. I don't know if I have the energy, if I could handle the sleep deprivation, not having my quiet time alone that I need when I get home from work, the unpredictable nature of children, and the noise.

To quote MTV's Daria~
"I don't like kids. I didn't even like kids when i was a kid."
Little kids tend to be loud, wild sometimes & want adults to do things I don't understand. I'm a lot better with teens & tweens thou. I'm very immature in lots of ways & I feel they tend to be more on my level than people around my age. I'm kind of protective with em & I'm kind of like a mentor or caring older bother in a way. I'm not interested in having kids but if I was in a serious relationship with a girl & something happened(like she got pregnant or had to take in sister's kids or something) I would stand by her. I might would consider adopting a tween if my partner wanted & we were good financially & not having any major problems. I think the best thing for me thou would be to be with a girl who has issues & is very immature & things.