I keep getting picked on in public. What do I do?! !! !

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At first I was considering that perhaps you are developing some sort of psychosis. It's not unusual for people to perceive people are doing or saying things about them during certain bouts of psychosis, however, then you mentioned that you don't wear glasses, which implied that you have poor vision.

When those with poor vision don't wear glasses or contacts, their observable universe shrinks such that they find themselves in a position where person A is not in their observable universe but they are in person A's observable universe.

They end up not only missing blatant non-verbal cues from person A but sending the wrong non-verbal cues to person A.....in my case, when I ventured out without my glasses once, person A once turned out to be some crazy psychopath who thought I was staring at him and had an issue with it, when in reality, I was looking past him to the sign behind him...or at least trying to.

From my perspective, I was spontaneously threatened by a strange psychopath for no apparent reason. From his perspective, someone was staring at him and his personality and perspectives on the world were such that he assumes negative intentions before positive ones.

I believe part of your problem will resolve if you wear your glasses or contacts. The latter part of your issue is that I believe you are stringing together events that seem cohesive but are actually unrelated.

The lady on the bus moved your purse and for some reason wanted to sit with you. Buses tend to be full of crazy, unpredictable people. It probably had nothing to do with you. You just happened to be the person in that seat at the time. The kids behind you may not have kicked your seat intentionally. They were probably fooling around and one accidentally kicked your seat. He probably felt foolish for doing so and after some non-verbal taunt from his friend, did it again as if to imply "See, I'm not bothered" to assert his confidence in himself.

Again, you were just a stranger in a seat.

Well my vision is OK for walking around - I have tried my distant-reading glasses to walk around the house, and I didn't get on very well. Things came up closer to me, and I smacked my head a few times, and I took them off and everything was in place again. I went to the optitions and he only prescribed me with glasses for reading distant words (for example words on a whiteboard), and he said that I needn't wear glasses all the time.
Right now I'm sitting at my computer, and the computer is about 3 and half feet away from my eyes, and I can see it perfectly, but if I was to stand right at the other side of the room to read it I would have to squint. But when I looked out my bedroom window earlier, I saw my brother coming up the other end of my street, which is about 9 houses away from mine, and I knew that was him, even though I didn't know what clothes he was wearing today. I just could see clearly that it was him.

I just wear ordinary clothes, which are fashionable and trendy, but I don't exact get them from the Boutique fashion stores. I get them from places like New Look, Peacock, Primark, Matalan, and various other ordinary clothes shops, where everybody I know gets their clothes from. The clothes I wear make me blend in.

But anyway I don't think it's anything to do with how I dress. It's something else, what I can't put my finger on.

I agree with the first response, I do think those were coincidences and random. Nothing to do with you. Just rude people. I sometimes run into rude people and I doubt it has anything to do with me being different.

One time on the bus there was a woman in a wheel chair, she got on and then she was getting off. She tells me to move my toes and before I got the chance to move them, she hits them with her wheel and doesn't even apologize. I am sure she was aware of it but maybe felt she didn't owe me one because I didn't move them fast enough. I don't know if she felt she is entitled to that behavior just because she is in a wheelchair. Or maybe I took too long to respond because sometimes it takes longer for the information to process for me to act on it and she could have thought I was the rude one who refused to move her feet just because she is a wheelchair and I do look normal so she isn't going to know I have AS and that I also have problems with taking longer for me to respond to things. Plus she looked to be in a bad mood anyway so I think it was her problem not mine and she took it out on me. I just happened to be in the wrong spot at the wrong time.

The walking in the street thing is familiar, I can relate. The awkward "let's play chicken" feeling as you walk in the street. Gulliver's Americanisation of Lilliput has had some subtle effects on the local culture here and there, you know. One is the way in which you can tell people here in a city like Mildando think their s**t doesn't stink, by the way they walk.

I've had some success with casually scanning the entire eye slit area, and then matter-of-factly looking away. I try and keep it light and casual. And the eye slit area includes the muscles on the sides of the eye and much of the nose and thus can show emotion. And I try to 'right-brain' it rather than left-brain and analytical. A beat or two after I look away, I might get an idea where the person is emotionally. And I only need to be approximate.

Well, today when I went out to a busy town, a tried looking up at more people, and do you know what? The more people I looked at, the less I felt I was being stared at, and people actually gave way and a man even let me go before him to be served in a shop, and he said, ''I always let the beautiful ladies go first.'' Although it didn't mean he fancied me, but I still felt very complimented.

I can relate to a lot of this. One time I was on break at my local community college. I was in line to get free popcorn. A guy who has just gotten his popcorn shoves past me, nearly making me lose my balance. There was somebody sitting at the table directly behind me. Had I lost my balance and fell, I would have landed on that person. I was so pissed off that I wanted to give him a piece of my mind. But, he had already left and I did not want to create a bunch of chaos.

Last year, my CAD teacher enrolled her whole class in SkillsUSA. Whenever I read a SkillsUSA magazine or wear SkillsUSA attire out in public, I get attitude from quite a few people, mostly glares and stares. This is especially true when it comes to riding the bus. They seem to wonder how someone with AS can be in Skills USA.

I've had people act very rude towards me on buses and at bus termini, both passengers and drivers. I've gotten my fair share of stares and glares from people while riding the bus. I've had somebody try to sit on my stuff twice, and the bus wasn't full both of those times. Once, a bus driver closed the door on me while at the bus terminal, only to open it ten seconds later to let me and the people behind me on. The same driver refused to open the rear door while at the community college. The door was working.

I have received weird looks and stares because of the way I walk.

I am so glad I am big and pissed off crazy looking, people only make fun of me inplaces where they know I won't hit them like in work. I had a co-worker who tormented me a lot see me walking on the other side of Blockbuster video so he ran back out to his car because to get away from me because I told him I would rape him if I ever caught him out of work. I told him it would not be in a gay way but the prison kind of way so he would need to ware diapers for the rest of his life. I told him that in one of my more extreme meltdowns. He was only 5'6" 120 lbs it would have been easy he would have been my prison teddy bear if I caught him. Not really but he believed I was going to do it if I got him.