Stop blaming everything on Mr Aspergers.

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I dont let my daughter us AS as an excuse (she has tried several times). AS just mean that she needs to try harder, not that she cant (she has mild AS and has been in therapy for 3 years now, first 3 times a week, now 2).

AS is a disablity. Even though I am aware of it and I try harder, it still gets in the way with relationships and dealing with people. It is part of who I am. To make people I know aware of it is not an excuse but to show them where I am coming from.


The way the OP sounds is we should ignore everyones issues and let them do whatever they want. "Let's have blind people drive, they should not use the fact they can't see as an excuse not do do it."


Give me a break, accept people for who they are and don't change them, or force them into doing things they are not comfortable with.

Don'r judge people unless you walk a mile in someones shoes. NTs have no idea how hard it can be for someone with AS, so NTs should not judge or speak for us.

Yet another crass demonstration of Apsergian insensitivity by Dark Lord. He loves to start a thread with some inflammatory statement, then responds with silence. There's a word for this, but we are not allowed to make such accusations so I will remain obliquely opaque.

Maybe he needs to blame Asperger's more than he does.

at least when they post a poll, their theory is blown out of the water. Like the left-handedness one or the "dark eyes" one.

Asperger's = cause of some things
Asperger's = not cause of other things.

Works for me.

I also agree that people should stop blaming their AS and live their lives to fullest.

Yes ma'am. Live life to the fullest. I'm still working on it.

In principle this makes perfect sense. Using autism to excuse behaviors and difficulties is counterproductive. But there is great utility in learning what limitations autism might place on us so that we can work out ways of minimizing the impact. We should also note that blaming things instead of taking responsibility is a very human trait, practiced with equal expertise among autistics and NTs alike.

I find the OP edging toward the offensive, not because it has no validity, but because its tone is absolute and accusatory. Everyone is at a different point in their personal development. Blaming things is actually part of the cycle of personal growth. No one wakes up one day fully actualized, 100% engaged in accepting personal responsibility for there lives. We build this attitude through a cycle of mistakes, self exploration, humility, learning about the world around us and a whole host of other things. And, yes, each of us will spend time seeking to lay blame on something before accepting our own responsibility. It's a human thing.

I went for 26 years without knowing the first thing about Autism/Asperger's.
I mainly blamed myself for my pathetic lot in life.
I did not understand my limitations, and thought of myself as a failure.

Now that I know about AS, I don't blame it for my problems.
But I have a little bit more of a clue as to why they happen, and how I might be able to solve them.

I hate it when people put things like ''Aspies are more likely to get cancer'', or some sort of other dreadful illness. Like, WTF? Since when does your brain being wired a bit differently be in control of what physical illnesses you're going to get?! Cancer isn't funny, and it scares the s**t out of people, and it's no good sitting there thinking, ''oh I have Autism, so I've got more risk of becoming physically ill by an unrelated condition.'' That is just hypercondriac mixed with a stereotype.

whatever jargon you are talking in, and whatever the actual thrust of your message was, i will say that you are not my representative in any way, whatever height i aspire to, and can or can not achieve.

and whatever sentiments i choose to express along the way, have nothing to do with you and everything to do with me.

you can not "apologize" for me for the same reason as i can not "thank" you for what i am. so recede from my view will you do.

good evening. i have to recommence my game tomorrow because there is a woman in the subway that needs my help, but i hit "save" so she can wait while i sleep as everyone else can too. i hope she is alive when i wake up. i will see at that time whether she is, and if she is not there, then the game must go on.

but i must sleep now, and i can no longer give a damn sorry.

It might be worth considering changing your last name to something less annoying for you. It seems to be causing you considerable emotional distress. Perhaps a course in anger management might also be of benefit for you.

Why oh why must you continuously post the same subject with slightly different names then run away?

Oh yeah... Tr(censored)...

What do either of these statements mean? Are you referring to actual events or abstract ideas of "people" and "lives"?

I just assume it means like if people get mad at you or if you say something wrong or if someone dumps you, it must have been because of your AS.

These things happen with NTs too. Same as when they ask a question and people take it the wrong way, an aspie does it and blames it on their AS.


These are just examples.