With every single one of my formal jobs (e.g. with a boss and everything), I have had really horrid days, complete with meltdowns. As well, some people immediately got the sense that I was different/less social/awkward/weird/rude, leading to disclosure in every single one of these jobs as well.
One job turned out well (the employer actually hired me as I had AS), one turned out okay (no one liked me there but they thought I was good at the tasks/duties) and one was a disaster (I ended up quitting as I kept getting into fights with a supervisor who hated me).
The only job where I haven't had these issues would be the one that I am running myself: my speaking job. This is because it involves something I am passionate about and enjoy doing. No one criticises me for it...in fact, I like it because I get so much postive feedback from it. This is why I am aiming for a career in the autism field.
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Given a “tentative” diagnosis as a child as I needed services at school for what was later correctly discovered to be a major anxiety disorder.
This misdiagnosis caused me significant stress, which lessened upon finding out the truth about myself from my current and past long-term therapists - that I am an anxious and highly sensitive person but do not have an autism spectrum disorder.
My diagnoses - social anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
I’m no longer involved with the ASD world.