They think I'm gay.

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I have a fear of a black Jesus, thats why I dont wear sunglasses in church

Minutes ago the local drunken moron (aren't I bitchy tonight? ) stopped me in the street to see how I was, whether I'd 'got a woman' yet and tell me at great length that it's ok to be gay because I haven't. I can't be bothered and extracted myself from the conversation as quickly as politely possible.

I'll console myself with the fact that a few years ago I stopped him committing a stupid crime which would have cost him six months in prison and that his wife, children (and when sober, he) are very grateful.

When I was not being called ret*d I was being called fa***t. They called me fag so much one of my tormentors who actually was gay decided to take a risk to ask me out. When I turned him down he made fun of me even more than what he was before I turned him down. I also had a woman at work ask me out when I said no she said it was because I am gay. It was because she had a kid with every guy she ever dated four kids before she was 22, what a winner.

If they beat you up for being gay even though you are straight and you can prove the attack was because they thought you were gay then maybe you can get lawyer to defend you in a lawsuit. If they thought you were straight they never would have bothered you. You might be able to get the media involved. Headlines like autistic man assaulted because his attackers thought he was gay gets attention on the news channels. Gay rights groups might help you, after all they are attacking you because they think you are gay.

Last edited by Todesking on 30 Jun 2011, 6:27 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I would have been assaulted because my reply would have been "Does your mother count?"

That used to be my solution to all of my social issues. Then I got tired of hitting people, and brass knuckles were too expensive for me.

I don't think I'd care if they thought I was lesbian, because I'm asexual and don't want to date guys to begin with; it might be somewhat irritating to have people think I was a closeted lesbian rather than asexual as I claim to be, but it doesn't sound like it would be enough to think about punching people over; more like a reason to roll my eyes and think they're silly. But I can see that maybe a straight girl would have a problem with it, because guys would be more hesitant to approach her if they were attracted to her.

I'd like to say, "Well, let them think that," because it's not like being gay is a bad thing, but socially clumsy folks have enough trouble getting a date as it is without public perceptions sending the wrong gender their way.

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I'm bisexual, genderqueer, autistic, mixed race, and female, so I spend a lot of time being offended.

People call me gay too. Apparently reading a Japanese newspaper in the United States is something typical of homosexuals... No... not really, but that's why I'm called gay, because I like Japanese things. Seriously, society? What the heck! I mean, what? Where does that conclusion come from!? Hobby = gay? Really!? UGH! The world is just... just so dumb!

I'm not gay but I hung around a group of gay university students for 4 years (mostly because I was shy, intelligent and spoke with a British accent) and progressively noticed that none of the straight NTs would talk to me or make friends. The discrimination was quite blatant. On the one hand it amused me but I realized any chance of getting a girl friend was completely flushed down the toilet. Then when the AIDS virus became a big issue in the mid 1980s I used to get female students come up to me and talk about how they had friends (gay) who caught the AIDS virus and how I should be careful.

My conclusion at the end of that period was the average person (male or female) is quite homophobic. I lost touch with my gay friends but recall the shallowness of university students and the awkward approach they took to talking to us.

I've not received outright abuse for being percieved as possibly gay (I'm not) but I've overheard people calling me gay/lesbian or questioning my gender. Also I seem to attract men as partners who are in some way conflicted in their sexuality - either in the closet or have issues around their sexuality eg dressing up in women's clothing in one instance. So I don't know if it's the masculine in me that is attracting the feminine in them possibly.

I fail to see how being gay should be seen as something bad anyway - it's just something you either are or not. I've noticed that a lot of NTs get very uneasy and often hostile around people who aren't typically male or female; they like people to be in clear-cut masculine or feminine categories or you get put into the weird/'threat to decent society' category which is amusing/scary depending on the circumstances.

I occasionally get "accused" of being gay by people who don't know me so well (especially when I admitted that I don't find naked women attractive...), but people who know me know that I'm just straight but hopeless when it comes to romance.

My grandma has accused me of being gay, both my mom and my sister have (repeatedly) asked me if I was gay... I'm not gay. I don't know why my own family has seemed to think that in the past, as far as I know I have never had a friend that thought I was gay. The only thing I can think of is that I will stand up against homophobia and speak up in support of gay marriage.

Maybe it has to do with the way they get a "this person isn't quite normal" vibe about us, and they assume it's their gaydar going off?

It is far from unheard of for people to abuse others by insincerely "accusing" them of being gay, as opposed to abusing others because they genuinely perceive them to be gay.

As an analogy, take two adult men. One of them does something the other sees as feminine/wimpy, and as a result, the other calls him "a little girl." The one making the insult does not actually believe the other adult man is a little girl; what he is really saying is, "you are behaving the way I would expect a little girl to behave," with the implication that it is not desirable for an adult man to act the way one would expect a young girl to.

Abusing someone by insincerely calling them gay is a bit different since usually the person being abused could be gay -- if an adult man calls another adult man a little girl it is obvious that the other adult man is not a little girl and that the insulter does not think the insultee is actually a little girl, whereas if an adult man calls another adult man gay it is not obvious that the other adult man is not gay and that the insulter does not think the insultee is actually gay -- but the ambiguity just makes it a stronger insult. The insultee is left wondering whether the insulter actually thinks they're gay or merely thinks they're acting like a gay person, and either way, if it is taken for granted that being gay is bad (or at the very least that it is not desirable for straight people to act similarly to gay people), it is clearly insulting.

My mom and brother thought I was a lesbian for the longest time... People in middle school used to think I was a lesbian as well. I never understood why.

I've been called gay often too and I had the same reaction, if I was gay I'd be dating a woman. I also seem to get hit on by women a lot considering that this is such a small town without much of an openly gay population. I think it's because of how I carry myself.