Do get a "sense" about certain people?

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I get this sense too - I'm usually right. My daughter started school last year and I've been standing with a group of Mums in the playground, including my 2 best friends. One of the Mums (J) was known to my best friend, from her son's nursery. Right away, I thought that I would not get along with her. She's a very chatty person, but I discovered really quickly that she likes to stir up fears. She told us about a van whose occupants were looking to abduct a child. This was totally untrue. She also likes to voice her suspicions about the little boy who doesn't speak to anyone and whom she says none of the children like. This hit a raw nerve with me and I told her so. She also talks about her daughter's frequent infections. I have a degree in microbiology and, even with my background, I've yet to figure out what's actually wrong with her and suspect exaggeration/ attention seeking is at play.

Last week, my 2 friends and I arrived in the playground and approached J. She was standing next to M. J then tried to pull the 3 of us into an argument, which we knew nothing about. From what I could hear, M was accusing J of scaremongering and terrifying her daughter (which I could believe). M told her that it was between the two of them. Not wanting to get involved anyway, I walked away, followed by my friends. J has not spoken to any of us since. The 3 of us met for coffee and discussed the situation. We all agreed about J's personality, but I had known from my first encounter with her that something like this might happen.

I do NOT have that sense at all. I do not form opinions rite away & I tend to make horrible 1st impressions. Sometimes people who seem to be mean to me at 1st start being nice to me after they know me a bit. & sometimes people who are nice towards me at 1st start being mean to me after they know me a while. I wish more people would take the time to know me before they judge me so it's only fair that I don't judge others till I know them

I took an instant dislike to somebody who later became the worst partner I've ever had. I'd gone and convinced myself that my initial reaction was irrational and prejudiced, because I didn't know what it was about her that made me feel negative like that, so I decided to give her a better chance. That was a big mistake. So much for political correctness.

These days I don't notice first impressions or senses so much.

I'm very, very good at sussing people out. This is why I'm so good at gossiping about people. Once I was talking to a colleague who used to work where I work, and I was talking about the manager. I said, ''she has favourites, and I know her favourite workers are A, B, and C,'' and my friend said, ''yes - I've noticed she had favourites.''

I always can figure out who's best friends with who. Although I'm an Aspie, I do take in a lot of what others are doing, saying and thinking, and I pick it up very quickly and easily. So when I'm quiet and aloof, it doesn't mean I've gone into a world of my own. I means I'm just ''exploring'' people. I may look like an unsociable dope who can't tell the differences between A and B, but I'm certainly not an unsociable dope on the inside.

Wow.

This topic has demonstrated to me I really have very little in common with other women, autistic or otherwise.

I definitely have this type of sense.

Arian and draelynn have pretty much described me with their comments.

I defnitely get it but I'd say it's more a case of puttng together all the available information about the person ie their facial expressions, the way they talk about things and what they talk about.

I see it as a person's 'threat level' and a lot of people instantly set off my threat alert and make me feel uneasy.

It never ceases to amaze me how people don't seem to be using the obvious criteria that I do and that they get into bad situations with people that, to me, were all there as potentials from the start.

I know about a lot of different categories of people and behaviour but it's very hard to articulate it in words as it usually just stays as thoughts in my head.

Unfortunately the majority of peoples' behaviour sets off some kind of alert in my head so I tend to feel I don't have a lot in common with them. I suppose it's over-analysis.