Is it a common Aspie trait to forgive easily?

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Sometimes I may forgive people. Not often, though. And I never forget.

I smiled at a sign I saw in the grounds of an Anglican church I was driving past today:

"Forgive, because it really upsets your enemies!"

I used to be very forgiving, to my detriment.
Although, I still do forgive. I do not let those people back into my life, as they are often bad.

It's more of protecting myself from these bad people.
If they make a genuine mistake, then that is okay. But often it is a particularly bad/deceptive/backstaby thing that they do.

I'm another aspie who finds it hard to forgive and forget.

I'll usually be mad initially, then I calm down and let it blow over.

I'm not the forgiving type.

If someone does something to harm or hurt me, I will never forgive that.

I match the distance of forgiveness and potency of effort I'm willing to extend alongside the weight I perceive they press upon me which conveys how important it is that they try to make up for what they caused within me to lose my prior level of faith and admiration. I know forgiveness and trust fly or fail on the sharpened wings of time and experience often so it's kinda linked to tidal swells and ebbs and flows, you can't have things happen immediately, or ever, or maybe it comes in bursts and staccato hiccups, humans are odd creatures bopping along on innumerable rhythms, there's always potential for forgiving and picking up strings and understanding when you're further along and have the perspective you lacked, on the other side, sometimes you find you don't have a string to pursue and that could be depressing or a blessing, life is full of knots, tangles and loops

There are times I wish I could be less forgiving.

Sometimes, I cannot forgive someone who ate my food without knowing, yet I forgiven a driver who hit me with his vehicle. It's kinda ridiculous, but that's how I felt.

Regardless, I never forget.

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I may think that forgiving looks more easy for me than to "normal" people. I easily forgive my bullies and parents who committed violence against me.

It can have impact on religious zone - my weak nature thinks that everyone should have forgiveness of sins and nobody should be damned - it created ideas against dogmas and orthodoxy of faith. I do not want to deprave anyone or be a heretic. Religion is very hard for me.

I think that it is possible that people with autism are generally more forgiving than NTs.

I don't forgive and I don't forget. I trust everyone initially, until they betray my trust, then I never give them a second opportunity. I don't dwell on the past at all but if I ever have course to remember some injustice done to me when I was younger, even pre-school age, it still rankles now.

I forgive easily. Sometimes a little too easily.

I hold grudges and I never forget, but I'll act fine. I'm aware it's not really healthy.

I forgive exceptionally easily. I don't know if that is good or not.

If someone does something and I know that they didn't have any bad intentions behind it then I usually don't ever get upset about it. When I know someone is being malicious though it bothers me and I try to avoid and ignore them.