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07 Jul 2011, 7:08 pm

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I hope you are insinuating that my parents are the bad ones, as you have no idea what kind of parent I am. Parenting is stressful business, and until someone experiences it, there is no way to know what it would be like for themselves.
It's great to hear that you have good parents, it IS too bad that not everyone has that. I do agree with you that if someone is not emotionally ready for children they should not procreate...but situations do occur after pregnancy, or the child is born. It isn't fair to assume that because we've borne children that we are invincible or won't experience some outward signs of stress.


I don't know you, I have no idea what kind of parent you are, or what your parents are like. But there's a huge difference between this:

MakaylaTheAspie wrote:
He would just wake up my mom if I started crying when I was a baby. Instead of spending time with me, he would just make me sit in my room while he played video games. He also spent my mom's paychecks on online poker. Our house went into foreclosure twice. He used chewing tobacco. I don't know what might be wrong with him, but I know he never wanted children, but to be a child.


and actually trying, but failing. There's a difference between looking for a job so that you can pay the mortgage for your family's house, and not trying to get a job because you don't care what happens to your family. I assumed that the latter was true in this case, and I was right.

And this is exactly why I don't want to have kids. I'm hardly responsible for myself, I don't need the added complications of being a parent. Maybe in 10 years from now I could support a family of my own, but right now that is far off from my radar screen.


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07 Jul 2011, 7:11 pm

SammichEater wrote:
mb1984 wrote:
I hope you are insinuating that my parents are the bad ones, as you have no idea what kind of parent I am. Parenting is stressful business, and until someone experiences it, there is no way to know what it would be like for themselves.
It's great to hear that you have good parents, it IS too bad that not everyone has that. I do agree with you that if someone is not emotionally ready for children they should not procreate...but situations do occur after pregnancy, or the child is born. It isn't fair to assume that because we've borne children that we are invincible or won't experience some outward signs of stress.


I don't know you, I have no idea what kind of parent you are, or what your parents are like. But there's a huge difference between this:

MakaylaTheAspie wrote:
He would just wake up my mom if I started crying when I was a baby. Instead of spending time with me, he would just make me sit in my room while he played video games. He also spent my mom's paychecks on online poker. Our house went into foreclosure twice. He used chewing tobacco. I don't know what might be wrong with him, but I know he never wanted children, but to be a child.


and actually trying, but failing. There's a difference between looking for a job so that you can pay the mortgage for your family's house, and not trying to get a job because you don't care what happens to your family. I assumed that the latter was true in this case, and I was right.


I agree with you on that for sure, no doubt.


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07 Jul 2011, 9:14 pm

Still no reply. He should be off work by now. :x


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07 Jul 2011, 9:26 pm

if he does respond, please post it here. I'd like to see what he has to say about this. :lol:


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07 Jul 2011, 9:32 pm

SammichEater wrote:
if he does respond, please post it here. I'd like to see what he has to say about this. :lol:


Will do! :twisted:


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14 Jul 2011, 8:46 pm

Been exactly one week. Nothing.


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14 Jul 2011, 9:28 pm

:(

Perhaps print it and leave it somewhere he will see it?



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14 Jul 2011, 10:17 pm

Hey little bro'... My suggestion is to find a mentor. Someone in your life who actually cares about you would do it. You can potentially be in Big Brothers program or even ask a teacher for a recommendation. Perhaps one of your friends has a Dad that would be willing to work with you. Sounds like you should not expect too much from this guy. There is a difference between a sperm donar and a Dad.

....just saying...