rabbitears
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19 Jul 2011, 4:22 am
After a pretty terrible day yesterday, my parents are making a bit of an action plan for me to stop "getting myself in a rutt" as they called it. From now on, I'm getting up at 9am every morning, without fail, and walking my dog first thing. Other things we are doing to help me are making sure I don't spend near enough 24 hours a day, every day, in my room just staring at my lap-top screen. And my mum also suggested that I try some volunteer work, just so I can get out of the house and learn some better social skills etc.
My mum described inertia pretty well yesterday. "It's like falling into a deep black hole, and the sides of the whole are too slippery to get yourself out". It really is a vicious circle scenario, and has caused my many problems. (Especially recently, as I'm currently trying to look for another job).
I hate it when people just think it's due to laziness, although they can be forgiven as on first impressions, the two have very similar characteristics. But I think anyone experiencing true Executive Dysfunction will eventually have their problems discovered by others, and help will be given. As for the lazy folk, people should soon find out that that is exactly what they are being.
Inertia is certainly a very real and serious problem when it get's to the point where you end up depressed and start self harming to relieve the frustration.
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19 Jul 2011, 4:50 am
Hey! You know I used to do a little baby-sitting when I was young. I used to sit and watch old horror movies while the parents were out, of course the kids were always in bed, because I didn't want to scare them. The movies would come on right after the local news, which was really boring, but I had a crush on the new weather girl so I'd watch it anyway just to get a glimpse of her. The kid's parents would stay out really late and their father was the manager of the local bank branch, which was right next to the hardware store where I bought chicken wire for a rabbit cage I never finished building because I couldn't figure out how to put a roof on it, I got the idea from some other neighbor kids who raised rabbits, their dog was a beagle and chased wild rabbits all the time barking and howling like a banshee. I had a dog once that used to try and chase a woodchuck in our back yard (how MUCH wood CAN a woodchuck chuck anyway ~ I've always wondered about that), but the woodchuck would always run down it's hole. One day I hear my dog barking loud then soft, loud then soft, and I couldn't figure out what he was doing so I looked for him and found him barking at a chuck-hole, sticking his head in, pulling it out, (loud, then soft ~ get it?)( and the woodchuck was standing about thirty feet away at the other end of the hole watching him. I think he was chuckling (get it? a wood chuck, chuckling?) anyway, that dog was so dumb he used to bark at us when we got home as if we were intruders and one day my dad came around the corner growling at him and he was so scared he jumped on our picnic table and broke it. We used to have a picnic table built into the floor of our deck. We could just pull it up and sit with our feet dangling and eat there. That deck was so strong my uncle, who was a carpenter, said it would hold up the whole house if we put it on top of it. We had a huge party on it one year with a bunch of Gypsies who bought a lamb and dug a pit in the backyard to roast it over (I think that may have been the first time my Dad let me have a beer), and that lamb was really good as I recall. Some people don't like lamb because they say it's like eating babies, which is a really horrid thought. I wonder why people would equate that with such a horrible act? Anyway, speaking of babies, wait....
That reminds me.
What about the Baby Sitter's Club?
Hah! All righty then, I can see you'll need a far more potent remedy than what I can come up with for staying still long enough to focus on something!
I used to read those books and enjoyed them and the Little Sister ones too. I could relate to Karen Brewer at times. Sometimes I have wondered if she had aspie traits. The first book I ever read in the series was Karen's School Bus and it was about bullying and I could relate to it because of the bullying she got on the bus.
Speaking of The Baby Sitters Club, I had a baby sitter who used to bring a box over with stuff in it for my brothers and I to play with. When I started to read the books, I also saw they had the boxes too with stuff in it which they called Kid Kits. I had wondered if that was where my baby sitter got that idea from?
19 Jul 2011, 4:55 am
I wish that were the case. In my experience, it is exceedingly difficult for a very, very large majority of people to differentiate between laziness and ASD-related-executive-dysfunction problems. Sure, it's getting better after realizing that these people have an ASD, but the problems with executive dysfunction aren't (as I've noticed) as widely-discussed as other problems, so there isn't as much "awareness" about that aspect of ASDs. But, then again, you said "eventually", so I guess after many years it might be possible for the many who are unlucky in the sense that their lazy appearance has been attributed to... laziness.
Even though we have problems with executive dysfunction, we can still be lazy, too.
I know there are many times when I don't want to do something because I just don't want to do it. That makes it even more difficult for outsiders to detect if it's just "laziness" (which we all experience) or problems with planning/procrastination/etc. in a certain scenario.
19 Jul 2011, 1:28 pm
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19 Jul 2011, 1:30 pm
I usually just admit it if I'm feeling lazy. I think only my parents can really tell the difference between the two, and that's usually too late anyway.
I agree though it is difficult for the majority of folk to understand the difference between the two, and many people will only see the problem of inertia after frustration has fully taken hold and the damage has been done.
It's a shame the signals are so subtle and easily misread....
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19 Jul 2011, 5:00 pm
I just discovered a little thing I jotted down a few months ago about what inertia feels like for me.
"I get mentally stuck in one place and moving on sometimes feels like an invisible force is physically holding me back, it's like mental paralysis. Sometimes when I may appear idle, I am in fact having a battle in my mind".
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Parasaurolophus, Plesiosaurs, Dinosaurs, Pterosaurs, Music, Tuna, Chocolate milk, Oreos, Blue things
Parasaurolophuscolobus. Parasaurcolobus. Colobusaurolophus.
....And Nunchucks are my friends.
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