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syrella
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20 Jul 2011, 7:41 am

Yeah, this happens to me a lot, especially in group situations. I just stay quiet. People assume it's shyness or something else, but really, I just don't know what to say to them. I spend most of my time just listening.


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20 Jul 2011, 8:36 am

Oh, gosh, yes.



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20 Jul 2011, 8:52 am

AnonymousPasserBy wrote:
I just shut up until somebody asks me a question. Problem solved :D


^This. And when I answer I consentrate more on smiling and using proper inflection than on what I'm actually responding with.

With NTs, it isn't usually about what you say anyway, but about how they 'feel' about how you say it. I don't have to talk much, ever, I find, so long as when I do I can avoid making any obvious social blunders.



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20 Jul 2011, 9:45 am

I have gotten better in this category, but it still happens. I try to configure what I have to say, and usually by the time I have something together, they move along to another. Even happens with family sometimes still. I usually just stay quiet.

Well, unless it's about one of current/past obsessions. Don't really have a problem there....



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20 Jul 2011, 12:26 pm

....I must admit I've felt this way once or twice before, where I can't think of what to say as I'm heading towards the door, this strange feelings I get and just can't find a cure, the thing is I was born on the wrong planet....


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not sure I could say that any better


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20 Jul 2011, 12:53 pm

No?


































Yes?


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20 Jul 2011, 5:51 pm

Yes, this happens a lot! To be honest, I doubt there'd be anyone diagnosed with AS who could truthfully answer 'no' to this question. In most conversations, the topic flows and changes so quickly that it's impossible (or inappropriate) to dwell on any one topic for longer than about half a second! and if everyone's talking about something I know nothing about - or I'm just not interested in - well, I can't really contribute so I'll sit back and let everyone else do the talking :wink:


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21 Jul 2011, 12:25 am

I can always formulate responses in my mind but it never comes out quite the way I want it to. I end up sounding crazy. Alexithymia



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21 Jul 2011, 12:49 am

Yeah a lot! I wasn`t always interested in what others had to say. Now no one I`ve met around my age likes Billy Idol and I don`t always like what they like so IDK what to say to them a lot of the time.


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