Do you hate it when people turn up at your home uninvited?

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No one never comes by mine. Only people that due are my parents or my uncle. But a few days ago my other uncle came by and knocked on my window because I was in my bedroom sleeping so he managed to knock on my bedroom window instead to complain about my dog waking him up. I wasn't upset or anyhting. In fact i never gotten upset when people happen to stop by unexpected. I guess it's because I grew up with it happening to my parents. When we lived in a neighborhood, we had people in front of our door all the time. I was never bothered by it.

I find that for Jehovah's Witnesses or Mormon missionaries, my dogs do a great job in scaring them off, and I usually avoid answering the door when I know they're in the neighborhood. If for some reason, I do answer the door, I slam it shut before they can say anything. They usually leave and for the most part, I'm left alone.

I do answer the door when the UPS guy comes, as sometimes I do order things from a catalog, so I know to expect a package. Usually the mailman just puts the mail in the mailbox, so unless they're delivering a package, they don't ring the doorbell.

Poor witnesses and missionaries, and preachers. I don't answer either, but it mustn't be a nice job at all. I mean, I don't know anyone who ever opens the door and actually lets them in.

I've had an uninvited guest show up at the door, last October. She's immature for her age and she's very dependent on people. I've told her to phone before she decided to come, the next time. She told me that she phoned but nobody answered. Than she started talking about how nobody tries to be understanding towards her. I feel like telling her that people don't understand me, but I don't run away because of it. She kept on asking me what I was doing, that evening. I've kept on telling her that I was going out with my parents. It got to the point, where I couldn't take it anymore, and I've decided to ask her to leave.

I dont want to high jack this tread to turn it into a religious debate but....Please have some pity for these people.Some are lonely,brainwashed by family from youth,confussed and looking to try and do some good...they might be delussional but I try and save my anamosity for the ones who try and influence politics(because that does effect my life,not weither some stranger fears for my eternal soul)
I talked to some several times(guess I was alittle bored and always curious),they seemed like nice people.Whatever the church expouses,alot of the individuals really think they are helping people.I thought some of their beliefs were interesting....they said God gave Satan Dominion over the earth and thats why there was so much evil....hummmm....I thought,kind of makes him a jerk doesnt it?Sets up a planet of critters with no concept of evil and then puts them at the mercy of an "angle" with the ability to decieve...sounds fare...sure explains alot.I think I will stay a Buddhist.

Man, Cockney Rebel! Do we know the same person?

I had a friend who did that all the time. I told her to call me beforehand to see if I felt like company. She ignored my requests, doing it anyway because she said I never answer my phone. She would even sit outside my door waiting for me to come home.

The last time she did it was the last straw. I didn't answer the door and she sat out in the hallway for about an hour thinking I wasn't home. I decided to distance myself from her after that.

There was this religion (was it the gnostics?) that held that the devil created the world when god wasn't looking. That's one of the best explanations I've ever heard (although I'm an unbeliever).

None of my friends would do such a thing--mainly because they don't live near enough to me to do it, but also because they know I like to know when people are coming over. If someone comes to the door that I don't know, I ignore them.

no.. People that bowl up are pretty cool.

Unless I don't want to see them.

Man, I thought I was just being anti-social. It can ruin my day if a stranger shows up without warning. I order a lot of stuff and I have the UPS guy leave stuff in the garage, he's great! The Fed-Ex carrier is always different and always wants a sig, so if I want my order I have to deal with him in close quarters.

The funny thing is that I have a corner lot and I garden obsessively and sometimes people will just walk up and knock because they want to ask questions about my unusual selection of plants. *yikes*

When that happens, there is the usual shock to deal with, a total stranger to meet (which I hate), and some awkward moments, but I don't mind talking about my obsessions to even a stranger. So, usually I manage to pull myself together, field their multiple apologies for disturbing me, find out what they are interested in and stumble forward into something similar to conversation. Sometimes I even enjoy it, after I recover from the defensive posturing.

I sometimes give them plants for stopping by if they appear intelligent enough to care for one, even though they caused my ears to ring with anxiety. I still don't like being 'visited at', but I treat those people, who are willing to feed my obsession, quite differently from the ones who want money or my soul or help with addresses or ask if I've seen their cat or if they can put a sign in my yard ...

YES a sign in my yard. That was yesterday, YHGTBFKM, but she wasn't kidding. She went away, but not before the damage was done.

I am very rude when this happens it is not intentional but a reaction to their invastion. I no longer have uninvited guest everyone knows to call and ask if it is ok including family.

I think it's rude when someone turns up unannounced at my door - at least CALL beforehand so I can prepare myself and can look semi-presentable at least, geeze. I see it as an invasion of my privacy and disrespectful as well. I might very well be busy with other plans when I suddenly find myself having to play host.

As for JWs and random doorknockers - no pity there from me, sorry. I hold the belief that IF I were interested in your religion or products, I would go and ask YOU, not the other way around.

Usually I won't answer the door unless I'm actually expecting someone.

Depends on the situation:

* If it is a friend who expects to be invited inside, that is the worst, I hate that. Happy to have friends over but only if prearranged.

* If it is a friend who is only staying for a moment and not expecting to be invited inside, then that is OK but really I would prefer at least some advance notice.

* If it is Jehova's Witness or Mormons or Christians or any other religious a**holes, I will answer the door and tell them why they are a**holes and offend them immensely, or play with them by telling them that I worship Satan because he is more powerful than God, depending on my mood at the time. Stupid religious f*ckwits.

* If it is a courier delivering something, that is OK. That is semi-expected anyway because I must have ordered something a few days earlier.

* If it is someone going door-knocking doing surveys or selling crap, I simply will not answer the door.

* If it is someone I do not recognize and cannot ascertain their purpose for knocking on my door, I probably will not answer the door, depending on my mood.

* If it is men in black, I will start my preparations for the world being invaded by aliens.

I don't mind postmen, deliveries, etc there ok, as are jehovah witnesses etc. most of the time as they are not expecting to come in (and aren't going to come in). Unless i'm in the middle of something when of course all interuptions are infuriating.
But i really don't like people who invite themselves over to hang out/stay the night etc. in my house. I live with someone else so usually it's their friends, who i also know, that turn up. Or they give only a few hours warning that their coming when i need a few days. I find it really annoying and stressful, socialising is hard enough without having to do it unprepared.