Measuring social maturity?

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You must be thinking of daspie, a fellow with many unconventional ideas.

Assuming that a fully developed Social Communicator would recognize that others don't know what "ESC" or "WISC" stands for, I take it ESC means "Emerging Social Communicator"...

[What does ESC and WISC stand for? I personally have a Phoenix-85 ESC but that's an Electronic Speed Controller for RC airplanes...]

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I have trouble figuring out how socially mature I am. Some people say I am like an old man, while others say I am like a child. My apparent 'maturity' depends on what the topic of discussion is, I am either too serious or too silly I guess... there isn't any sort of middle ground for me. I think I am just kind of socially.... unique?

I noticed that a few people on a social networking site have a "turn on" that they find in others of "Knowing when to be serious and when to joke.", so adapting your seriousness/silliness to the situation at hand seems to be important to most NTs. That is, it's not so much how serious or silly you generally are, but rather when and in what situations you choose to be serious or silly.

I don't think this is generally associated with age (except for the really young ones), so I'd probably say this is more of a "unique thing" that's probably associated with immaturity in the popular mind.

Complicated.

I agree that most on the spectrum are socially immature in *some* ways.
I think, on a daily basis, I fit in with people my age or younger...maybe some who are in their late teens or early 20s.

In other ways, I fit in with people who are in their 40's. 50's +

I don't act like the most mature person on the planet, every day, MOSTLY because I find it boring but I think that most of my morals and beliefs are more like that of a middle aged person. I don't make the same mistakes that lot of people my age do. I can see how stupid it without even experiencing it.

I am immature in some ways. Like when I get angry or annoyed about something, I would sulk. I don't get along with my brother, and more often than not he is out, so that's quite lucky for me, but when he is in the kitchen or living-room, I get the right hump. I think it's because he answers back to whatever I say, even if I'm not even talking to him, and I don't think he has time for me, since he is a completely different person to me who I can't relate to. But when he's about where I'm likely to be, I storm off into my room. I know that this is immature, but I can't always be bothered to be mature.

But I am more mature in other ways than other people. I never take the piss or stare at odd-looking people. I saw a girl on the bus the other day who was sitting in an odd sort of way, and was rocking backwards and forwards a bit, but I thought to myself, ''I'm not going to stare. I don't know her. Like everyboy else, she's a stranger to me.'' But I bet other people stared and had to comment, especially people aroud my age.

Yeah I do notice that most people know when to switch between serious and silly much better than I do. When people start being silly I will join in but I frequently seem to miss whatever it that turns the silliness back off in a conversation. I will still be joking around when everyone else returned to more serious conversation... then I just get weird looks.

I used to have real problems with the switch between serious/silly and actually annoyed people and made them angry on more than a few occasions. My feeble attempts at being entertaining in a silly way as I had observed others do would usually backfire

Silly is my standard setting. I have had some people complain that I don't switch to serious when needed, though.