is it difficult for you to say no to someone?

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And the sad thing is, I often say yes just to please and make other people like me.

Yes. I never want to say no because I am feel like being the extra pair of hands someone needs is something I have to offer others. I feelpretty much useless for emotional/social support so I'd rather maintain a friendship by lifting heavy objects or something.

Used to be more so, when I felt that having a social network was what defined one as an adult.

Far less so now.

I need space to ponder the question. If I don't have that I tended to say yes. Nowadays I tend to say no. Either way it's not ideal. Still remembering to create that time to think.

Yes for most of the reasons above. At work my workload went unreasonable but all the requests seemed reasonable and as I was the most junior person feel I have to say yes to everything or I am showing a bad attitude refusing to do work.
I am off with stress

Depends on the mood I'm in and who it is. Usually if it's a salesman I can say no easily. With friends it's a lot more difficult. I don't like hurting their feelings, I don't like coming over as mean, and I want to get them what they want.

Actually it's not often necessary to give a categorical yes or no. I often forget this in the heat of the moment, but answers such as "Can I think about it?" "Maybe. It depends on....." or "I'll try, but I'm not promising anything" are often much better. Even if you can't give somebody what they want, you can usually at least throw them a scrap of some kind.

It bothers me a lot when I simply can't get them what they want.......I instinctively want to tell them the plain truth, that the answer has to be no because of the logic of the thing, but instead I often try to help in ways that I know are very unlikely to work, just to make sure that they won't think I didn't care.

In the workplace it can be a more difficult problem. There, you may be dealing with a greedy person who can take away your livelihood if you don't help them to exploit you. It helps to know your rights, but there's a grey area where nobody knows if you can say no or not.

I don't know. It depends on the situtation and person.

Not really. I just don't know how to.

Yes, I find saying no more difficult than any other form of communication, and this is not exaggerating at all. I can do small talk. I can be polite. I can make conversation. I can continue conversations. I can understand non-verbal cues. I can even make friends and stay friendly. I may find some difficulties in a few of these, BUT, I don't find anything else as hard as saying one little, tiny word called ''no''. It's just SO awkward for me to do.

I have said ''no'' to people before, and I got bullied for it. I know it's only happened once and they were nasty anyway and I should forget it and move on, but it still makes it awkward for you. I am trying to work on trying to say ''no'', but it's still never going to be a strength of mine.

But I do hate saying ''no''. I'd rather stick my head in a bee's nest than to say ''no'' confidentally to someone without any guilty or awkward feelings.

Yeah, I also say yes because I think other people's happiness is more important than my own even though this shouldn't be the case at all.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! !! !! !! !! !! !!

That should cure it. In fact, I have been told that I am much too honest and are liable to offend, well, most people I interact with for any length of time.

To certain people, yes. It tends to stress me out in those situations.