Naive Advice Given To You During Therapy

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Is there any room on your psych's patient list... please

dont think she does international work, but i could ask for you =)

Maybe not ridiculous, but naive with hindsight now I have a diagnosis.
I tried to explain that I had passed through a lot of friendships over the years that had not lasted and kept repeating with the next set of people (i.e. social problems AS). She just said it was normal for people to move on and make new friends.

Recently I was told it was unethical to continue treatment because it was not working and I just needed referring to Aspergers services. The Aspergers centre has told me that is rubbish and I am entitled to treatment for depression/anxiety with adjustments and AS training of the therapist.

Seriously!
That has to be the worst advice I've ever heard, especially if you have a drinking problem. I am just shocked at how stupid that is.

I've done that, it works. But obviously not a long-term solution.

Basically, the psychologist told me to conform to social norms and pointed out how my mario shirt wasn't normal. I was kind of pissed off, since I wanted to be accepted for who I am, and not being a phony suck-up conformist.

I was once told by a therapist that I shouldn't have kids because I have AS.


Way to stereotype and make assumptions about my disability before getting to really know me.




My school counselor told me I was still behind in my childhood years just because I brought in my Ty Beanies and to him that was kid stuff so I was still behind my age. But lot of people collected TY beanies. They were so popular then, even grown ups bought them and they become collectibles. I just brought them in to show him them.

I got that a lot too. Not because of beanie babies but becuase some of my Lion King obsession. BS! Adults like Lion King and about two thirds of the LK fan community are adults. But back then when these shrinks were telling my parents I was basicaly ret*d and stuff, all these people were kids too. I was basicaly never allowed to be a kid.

When I was a kid, mine told me the same thing! Well, not that a Mario shirt wasn't normal. But she did tell me that nobody would want to be my friend if I didn't hide who I really was and try my best to be like everyone else. She also told me (repeatedly) that I should act like I am less smart than I am, because if I show my intelligence and spend time with intelligent people, I would want to become a member of Mensa, and members of Mensa are obviously all unproductive members of society. She actually told me that everybody in Mensa does not know how to hold onto a good, high-paying job and that I should not be like them because it will make me a useless bum. Oh, and she said I would probably only be able to get a job as a waitress if I didn't clean my room and do my homework, because nobody will want to hire me if I'm too smart. So I should dumb down everything I say to people so that they won't think I'm a prattling, showy genius. So I took all the big words out of my vocabulary, and tried pretending I was less smart...and then I lost half my friends because they thought I was patronizing them. Some help that was. (I ended up realizing that that was why they were mad at me when one of my less subtle friends yelled at me for it, so I stopped talking that way when I wasn't in therapy and got most of them back in the end. But still.)

Even now, I still don't understand the idea that someone would be penalized in a job search for being smart. Smart doesn't mean "overqualified."

This thread is hilarious!

And here I thought I was the only one who got ridiculous advice from therapists.

The most ridiculous is when the therapist insists you need treatment for "imagining things", just because SHE doesn't notice those things. Then when she discovers them, she magically never mentions treatment for "imagining things" anymore.