AS people with few friends: Do you enjoy being alone or are

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I learned to prefer being alone. It hurt it was lonely but it hurt less and made me feel less lonely than constantly trying and failing to fit in.

Very few people I consider actual friends (one is a WP member I only know online), a bf, some family, several acquaintances/colleagues...that's it.

I actually do enjoy being alone for the most part. Being in social situations for too long is exhausting. After I get home from work, I really need solitude to avoid a total shutdown.

I get lonely very rarely, and only for specific people, not for having company in general.

However, with day-to-day interactions, people (strangers) seem to like me well enough. Lately, I'm not sure where the "act" ends and "my true self" actually begins when it comes to such things.

i enjoy being alone.
i have no interruptions to my thought flow if no one is around, and i resent interruptions to my thought flow.

sometimes I enjoy my solitude, sometimes I don't. right now I am content with little human contact. mainly I am around my parents. sometimes I don't even want to be around them.

I like having friends, but I'm fine without them, as long as people don't pick on me.

I sort of identify as an introvert-extrovert mix, too. I need alone time to recharge, but when I interact I act extremely sociable. And it's not me trying to act NT, in fact when I consciously try to act NT I have to hold myself back from talking all the time. It's more that my sociability is either on or off, never in between.

I have friends but I enjoy my alone time for the most part.

I perfer to be alone. The only reason I ever wanted friends as a kid was so I could lecture them about my obsessons and special intrests. When I finnaly realised that wasn't what a friend was supposed to be, I found the whole concept of friendship really weird. Whenever I can't talk about my obsessions or do anything related to them, I feel like I am suffocating. I finnaly found a best friend and she's the first one who's never given me any trouble about my obsessions. She's usualy busy becuase she's an honor student but that dosen't bother me because I crave my solitude so much. Anyway, as I said, it dosen't bother me that she's so "busy" because I perfer to be alone. And if she were to actualy drop me as a friend, I don't think it would hurt me. Mostly because I am used to that sort of thing and because I perfer solitude so much. As I said, I feel like I am suffocating if I can't talk about my obsessions. I'll take my obsessions over some boring, shallow, lizard hating conformity obsessed nazi.

I have not had an IRL friend for roughly 8 or 10 years, I like to pretend I prefer it that way.

I prefer to be alone and have no interest in making friends. But a lot of this is due to the fact that I just can't trust anyone. If there were people out there I could trust, I might feel differently, but the friendship would still have to be according to my terms, so I dunno.

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It's a bit of both for me.

I enjoy being alone sometimes and I need my fair share of alone time, to rest and regain my energy, to mind my own business, do my interests without interruptions or do things that other people wouldn't understand. Being alone can be very nice sometimes, but being alone all the time is not nice for me.

I also want to have friends and to sometimes get a chance to hang out with them and do things with them or talk to them. For me that's easier said than done though. It's not that I'm shy or anxious, I'm not. It's that I have no idea how to get to know knew people and make friends, how to make people comfortable or interested enough in me to want to get to know me or spend some time with me, how to have a normal conversation etc. I don't have the social skills to do this well enough, so I end up forced into being alone a lot. People ignore me, avoid me or are just not interested and I don't know how to change that.

The worst thing is that most of the time I'm neither alone enough to enjoy real solitude nor really with people enough to enjoy their company. I'm usually forced into a middle ground, being surrounded by a bunch of people who are all pretty much ignoring me or keeping their distance, so I can't really enjoy being alone, but I also can't enjoy their company. I never feel lonelier than when I'm surrounded by people who make me feel invisible, which is almost everyone.

I live alone and have for a long time. I love it. I genuinely have absolutely no desire at all for human contact beyond what I need to go about my day(though I always use the kiosk instead of the cashier when given the choice.) Don't get me wrong, I'm not antisocial, I'm nonsocial(or would asocial be a better descriptive? IDK)

I tend to enjoy both social intereaction and solitude, not too much social intereaction which causes my anxiety to flare and I tend to space out abit and not know what is going on. But I do like being left alone in my unit to concentrate on my hobbies and interests without coming out of my unit for days on end. I find that too much social intereaction makes me so exchausted and tired it takes at least a week for me to recover and two days of sleeping all day to feel at least normal again. But Im happy not having any friends at least there are no complications, no dramas, no misunderstandings and lack of communication. I like the solitude and being alone my xbox, ps2, psp nintendo ds computer, my books, science fiction memrobilia, lava lamps and collection of music and movies are my friends and thats all that matters to me.

I prefer being on my own. I can get along with people but then they start getting on my nerves in some way. It might be a sensitivity thing with me but it still happens. When it happens I need to get away from people before I start telling them how I feel or just withdrawing and holding in my anger.

I think I feel ok being alone because I have the choice. I have one good friend and her friends are my friends. One guy really wants to be my friend and I really want his friend to be my--
Anyway, I both have the choice of hanging out with people and being alone.
My severe sensory issues and my severe dislike of people (at times) makes me choose the latter option.

Also, I think what helps is that as a child I never desired friends and I'm introverted so I feel more energised being alone, rather than the exhaustion I experience around people.

I don't mind socializing with one person or a small group of people for brief periods, and if I'm already familiar and comfortable with them. However, that doesn't mean I seek out or initiate social encounters. I don't have what I consider to be a true friendship--just fond acquaintances. The link below might be of some interest to people on the spectrum. It discusses a growing trend in society at large to go through life with few or no friends.

http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2006/ ... er_friends

I like the concept of having friends. But in real life it never works out like I imagine because I just can't find people that I can connect with.

I've been a loner for so long I'm used to it. I can do my own thing without having to worry about anyone else like going to the movies I just get on the bus and go too much hassle waiting for someone else to make up their mind about what time.
I've never been the type of person people like to hang around with they can't handle it when I'm depressed they get scared off.
Also I've tried joining clubs it didn't work out I was always getting picked on so I feel its better to go my own way and do things on my own.