crying, or rather, not crying, with AS

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I very rarely cry. I just don't have it in me. I used to attend a church with Pentecostal roots and could not shed a single tear when trying to get some things released. When my dad, who I was close to, died, I didn't cry. I think the only person I would cry for is my daughter.

I think Aspies, like other people, cry on an individual basis. For me, I was an endless crier as a baby, and I often cry a lot during my meltdowns. But, when I am EXPECTED to cry (at funerals or other bad/sad events) I do not.

I asked my mom about this a while back, she said she doesn't remember me crying much as a kid. Described me as a very 'calm' baby. She said when I got frustrated about things I would look like I was going to cry. Maybe that should have been an indication of how frustrating and overwhelming I found the world?

I do remember crying as a kid, but only when I was alone, and I tend to cry silently.

Once, when racing my sister to our bus stop, I fell and cut myself. I remember calmly discussing with my sister if I should go to school and go to the nurse or go home. Our neighbor came along and told me I needed to go home and have my parents take me to the hospital, I ended up getting 6 stitches, I still have the scar. I must have been 6 or 7.

Never had anyone close to me die (didn't really know my grandparents), I don't know how I would react.

Never cried while watching a movie, whereas my little sister will cry over any movie with a remotely sad incident, completely baffles me.

i am not a funeral crier in general, i can get sad only at the sadness of the others in attendance who happen to be sad. i believe that if i was the spirit of the deceased, i would not want people crying over me, i'd rather they were all happy. but when exposed to extreme beauty [i.e., a sublimely beautiful thing, thought or deed], i bawl like a baby [stendahl's syndrome].