Are You Able to Tell When Someone is an Aspie?

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Ummm. I have seen a couple of NT-acting Aspies but I haven't seen a single AS-acting NT.
I think I am quite good at telling which is which, but then I might be so bad at it that I don't even know it.

I can't tell for sure, but sometimes I do have strong suspicions. I usually never ask though, so I never know if my suspicions are correct.

I am always subconciously looking for AS traits in people I meet...it is because I fit the criteria well as a kid but trained myself to become exceedingly aware of these behaviours to the point where I'd be less likely to use them myself.

Some behaviors that may be indicative of an ASD (based on my observations):

- Overly formal way of speaking.
- Odd facial expressions that don't really suit the situation
- Lack of awareness of personal space
- Has very few people they interact with and do not seem to have any close friends
- Misinterprets friendships with people (i.e. thinks some people are close when they are not)
- Does not joke around or use plays on emotions when interacting with other people (a *very* common one).
- A very strong interest with a particular topic
- Will ask me the same questions over and over, even if I have already answered them.
- Will display behaviours that others may interpret as 'rude' (like texting people at a party instead of interacting with the people there)
- Will often act like they are using a social script instead of showing actual interest in a situation or 'faking' it convincingly.
- Lack of awareness of their appearance in relation to their surroundings (i.e. talking with their mouth full, having an usual gait)
- May stim, rock, or fiddle with things
- Won't be very open ended while interacting with others (making statements without room for feedback)
- Slow social processing (will take longer than usual to say something)
- Verbal tics and unusual ways of speaking (may mumble a lot, have uneven tone or speak too loud)

I'm sure there's more.

there are a few kids at my school who I am suspicious of but am not sure. however, there is one kid who won't speak to anyone, even if you ask him a direct question like what his name is, which is weird even to me.

Sometimes you can tell, sometimes you can't.

I have actually approached 3 people to ask if they were aspies at university. (In my maths classes there usually tends to be one or two, as it is quite popular with aspies.) And I was successful on 2 out of 3 occasions.

The first one just looked a bit rigid and aloof, and he seemed not to know how to cope in social situations. The second one was obvious as she would constantly stim in class and would pace backwards and forwards in the corridor and talk to herself. The third I wasn't quite sure about, but approached her out of curiousity, and she turned out to be dyslexic but not aspie.

Many of the behavioral traits have already been pointed out on this thread, but when it comes to more obvious physical symptoms, I would point to the following.

Slightly larger than average head
Tense shoulders
Unusual way of walking (one example is to walk with arms drawn up more than usual or folded)
Mismatched clothes (pay no attention to fashion, and dress more for practical purposes)
Looking down at the floor instead of straight ahead while they walk.
Lack of facial expression (smile less frequently, and when they do, it tends to look a bit awkward.)
And a distant withdrawn look in their eyes

These are some of the more obvious visible and physical traits that I have noticed, but this is based only on the small sample of aspies that I have met. I'm sure that there are many out there who don't display any of these traits.

i think lilo from lilo and stitch has asd.

- lack of friends
- eccentric
- naive --> 'in her own world'
- special interest --> elvis presley

Its quite easy really. Its like anything in life, a little training and effort is required to learn what to look for.

Its gets easier with time and practice, but the time required to learn is quite substantial.

I asked people before but no one knows what as is.

I don't even know whether or not I'm an aspie, how the heck am I going to figure out if someone else is?

Sometimes I can tell in an instant, sometimes I need to get to know them better.