Do you have tantrums?

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Yes. It usually manifests itself when I lose an object that I desire (like a book) or really need (like a wallet) at that moment. I know I am better at controlling myself then I used to be but I still lose control sometimes. The same thoughts repeat in my head and I will yell, whine, half-cry, stutter, and repeat words while desperately searching for what I want to find. If I can't find it and I can't control my anger I might start throwing light weight objects around. I will know I am acting irrationally, and will tell myself out loud to stop. If someone tells me to stop and asks what the problem is though I am as likely to scream at them as to react calmly. It's terribly embarrassing. I am sure it's bad for others in my household as well.

I try to sit down, and slow my thoughts down when I feel I am losing control, but it is still very difficult. I hope I can gain further control over time.

I voted no because I hadn't had one in a while. Living on my own has decreased my anxiety, meltdowns, etc. No one is there to mess things up when I get back because everything is still the same and I don't have to start cleaning up after everyone. I am a neat freak and I can't stand things being out of place but gotten better at it when i was still living with my family. Few things out of place wasn't a big deal anymore because few things out of place, so what. It won't take me long to put them where they belong.

But since I've moved out, my whole family still follows 'the Beth rules" lol. Shoes off when you come inside, dishes go in the dishwasher, put your dirty dishes in the sink if there isn't room in the dishwasher.

Bah! Don't get mad. Get even.

No

No

I have had tantrums on and off, not very often but when i do they're big!! ! I will yell, see red and forget what i do and that burst into tears. They can be quite scary.
More usually though i just get very irritable and bad tempered when i get over stressed or overloaded.

I said no because I normally dont theres only one person Ive ever had a tantrum around and thats my hubby.. I tell him he should feel honored even my family has never seen that side of me.

I think I do good though it only happens when hes being completely unreasonable and has frustrated me past my breaking point.. I yell, scream, gibber incoherently and Ive even grabbed him by the shoulders and shaken him once but Ive never hit him or (intentionally) broken anything and it usually only lasts a minute or two.

i do, but more of the emotional kind.

however...

i just recently visited a friend (like my one best friend) in NYC... we went out to a restaurant that night and had drinks with her girl friends. now, i don't know exactly what happened, cause i thought i was doing well socially... trying my best to be chit chatty...

but when we got back to her apt that night, she just lashed out (for no reason?) at me... saying i wasn't even trying to talk to her friends and that because of that, they all thought i was drunk or something... that i embarrassed her because i was being so stupid...

first of all, the place had live music and we were right next to the band... second, we had a round table, so there were like only 2 people i could reasonably hear and one of them was her, so that left one new person whom i did talk to. i even went outside with them on their stupid smoke breaks and i did talk to them then... but they mostly talked about their work (financing, which i have no clue about) and no one really asked about me and i think that oever time, i've just convinced myeslf to say F people who don't even try to talk to me; why should i even stress and try... but i did make an effort to chat..

so she's just berating me... and im sitting on the floor against the wall with my knees to my chest crying and wriggling my toes frantically (i usually rock and kind of mouth my knees when im upset, but with someone present... toe wriggling suffices...)

then she just screams and is like "you wont even look at me!" and continues to tell me how drunk i am (which i wasn't)... and i don't know what happened, but when she said i wouldnt look at her, i snapped; jumped up and kinda grabbed her chin and made her look at me... but i couldn't hold her gaze and let go... i think forcefully... cause she then started screaming i choked her...

which is rediculous... but she keeps insisting that's what happened so now she wont even talk to me...

she doesn't know i (think i) have AS... but now, i cant even get a dialogue with her... eventhough i apologized...

she kept demanding one... and while i gave her one it pisses me off to no end because she doesn't even think she owes me one...

now there's no telling what she thinks of me.

so, guess that's a yes?

She doesnt sound like much of a friend if her appearance is more important to her than you.

yeah i haven't seen her in a few years... and i suck at keeping in contact... and i just recently found out about all this AS stuff... so it's not like she knows...

but that's my conclusion too... just sad cause she's like the one friend i've had in the last seven yrs... guess that's what NYC does to you.

I have tantrums when nobody is watching me.

Yeah large cities with hypercompetitive societies tend to make people more superficial and manipulative than they would like to be out of necessity.

If it was me and I had a way to give her a message Id just say "I dont like what living there is doing to you your not a very nice person anymore" and maybe she'll get the hint.

Or maybe she'll be so thoroughly brainwashed into buying into the mentality they tend to have there that she'll take offense at it and snap back at you.

Either way it should let you know what you should do.

I haven't had a good tantrum in many years. The brisk walks mentioned earlier are an invaluable steam pressure release. I do fine handling most troubles this way and it might even be good for me, since I go for a fairly long distance usually.

However, I have developed pouting into a highly refined art form.