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30 Sep 2011, 9:06 pm

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Look for the big scarlet "A" sewn on to their clothing. I see a lot of them around Disneyland.

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Ooh, that's a good one! My son always wears a big red baseball cap with a large letter A in the front. :lol: ( Although A is his initial.) You probably don't need that to spot him, though. Everybody in my family's pretty obvious.


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01 Oct 2011, 2:57 am

The only way you would identify me is the fast walk to get out of wherever I'm at, and the eyes looking down, away from people.

Other than that, you'd have to start a conversation and get past the fluff - I've learned to fake the fluff well enough to get by.



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01 Oct 2011, 4:15 am

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I think my obsession is verging on being aspie. :lol:


It could be all sorts of things including a personality disorder.

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But, being aspie is creepy, so I guess you could say that.


Most people aren't intentionally creepy, or if they are told then they are generally mortified and don't just shrug it off.

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Anyway, I hope to gain insight into the condition that I can't gain from the internet. Sure, it's fun reading everyone's posts and everything, but I lack "real life" experience that cannot be described by text alone. You know, the interpersonal dynamics, how they tend to react and/or respond, how they respond to certain introductions, etc.

I want to take an aspie and make them my lab project. :)


The following is copies from the National Autistic Society website, specifically "What is Apserger Syndrome":

Asperger syndrome is mostly a 'hidden disability'. This means that you can't tell that someone has the condition from their outward appearance. People with the condition have difficulties in three main areas. They are:
social communication
social interaction
social imagination.

The fact that you want to meet these people and even care what the interpersonal dynamics are is rather telling.



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01 Oct 2011, 4:17 am

swbluto wrote:
If I were to ask directly, I think I would ask something like... "Do you have something that starts with an... A?", but that requires a level of intelligence to answer that is not necessarily guaranteed by someone with autism/aspergers.

Yes, thanks, it's called an appendix. 8)



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01 Oct 2011, 4:25 am

nemorosa wrote:
swbluto wrote:
I think my obsession is verging on being aspie. :lol:


It could be all sorts of things including a personality disorder.

swbluto wrote:
But, being aspie is creepy, so I guess you could say that.


Most people aren't intentionally creepy, or if they are told then they are generally mortified and don't just shrug it off.

swbluto wrote:
Anyway, I hope to gain insight into the condition that I can't gain from the internet. Sure, it's fun reading everyone's posts and everything, but I lack "real life" experience that cannot be described by text alone. You know, the interpersonal dynamics, how they tend to react and/or respond, how they respond to certain introductions, etc.

I want to take an aspie and make them my lab project. :)


The following is copies from the National Autistic Society website, specifically "What is Apserger Syndrome":

Asperger syndrome is mostly a 'hidden disability'. This means that you can't tell that someone has the condition from their outward appearance. People with the condition have difficulties in three main areas. They are:
social communication
social interaction
social imagination.

The fact that you want to meet these people and even care what the interpersonal dynamics are is rather telling.


I hope that you realise that by stating the above that you have effectively broken the rules of this forum, as you are basically making a personal attack against swbluto; please refrain from this type of behaviour, or I shall inform a Moderator of your actions in due course.

You have been warned.



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01 Oct 2011, 4:35 am

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I hope that you realise that by stating the above that you have effectively broken the rules of this forum, as you are basically making a personal attack against swbluto; please refrain from this type of behaviour, or I shall inform a Moderator of your actions in due course.

You have been warned.


I don't think so. You have something of a "hair trigger". swbluto has thicker skin than that as I'm sure he'll agree.



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01 Oct 2011, 4:42 am

Is it really that important that you can pick an aspie out from miles away?


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01 Oct 2011, 4:43 am

nemorosa wrote:
TwistedReflection wrote:
I hope that you realise that by stating the above that you have effectively broken the rules of this forum, as you are basically making a personal attack against swbluto; please refrain from this type of behaviour, or I shall inform a Moderator of your actions in due course.

You have been warned.


I don't think so. You have something of a "hair trigger". swbluto has thicker skin than that as I'm sure he'll agree.


Wrong. You are not permitted to make baseless accusations in regards to neurological disorders a person may or may not have, whether you believe the aforementioned person has "thick skin" or not, it is simply not sporting.

It is in the interest of good taste for all members of these forums that these rules be complied with, regardless of your protestations to the contrary.



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01 Oct 2011, 5:01 am

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Wrong. You are not permitted to make baseless accusations in regards to neurological disorders a person may or may not have, whether you believe the aforementioned person has "thick skin" or not, it is simply not sporting.

It is in the interest of good taste for all members of these forums that these rules be complied with, regardless of your protestations to the contrary.


If you be so kind as to which "baseless accusation", as I'm left scratching my head as to what accusation I've actually made. I've haven't said swbluto is or isn't anything.

Did I say he was creepy? No, I asked him if he thought his behaviour was.
Did I say he had a personality disorder? No, I pointed that out as a theoretical alternative for the obsession other than aspergers.
Did I deny that he could have Aspergers himself? No, I suggested his interests in personal dynamics may tell himself something.



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01 Oct 2011, 5:10 am

nemorosa wrote:
TwistedReflection wrote:
Wrong. You are not permitted to make baseless accusations in regards to neurological disorders a person may or may not have, whether you believe the aforementioned person has "thick skin" or not, it is simply not sporting.

It is in the interest of good taste for all members of these forums that these rules be complied with, regardless of your protestations to the contrary.


If you be so kind as to which "baseless accusation", as I'm left scratching my head as to what accusation I've actually made. I've haven't said swbluto is or isn't anything.

Did I say he was creepy? No, I asked him if he thought his behaviour was.
Did I say he had a personality disorder? No, I pointed that out as a theoretical alternative for the obsession other than aspergers.
Did I deny that he could have Aspergers himself? No, I suggested his interests in personal dynamics may tell himself something.



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It could be all sorts of things including a personality disorder.


^ This. A "theoretical alternative", as you put it, is still making an implication against that person's mental health, regardless of the reasoning behind the claim. Surely you know this.



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01 Oct 2011, 5:15 am

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It could be all sorts of things including a personality disorder.


^ This. A "theoretical alternative", as you put it, is still making an implication against that person's mental health, regardless of the reasoning behind the claim. Surely you know this.


So that's the one. You are completely wrong in thinking I implied anything and I think it is very foolish to make such a logical leap.

But since you've already made up your mind and it's already clear nothing I could say at this point would convince you otherwise, we are done.



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01 Oct 2011, 5:28 am

nemorosa wrote:
TwistedReflection wrote:

Quote:
It could be all sorts of things including a personality disorder.


^ This. A "theoretical alternative", as you put it, is still making an implication against that person's mental health, regardless of the reasoning behind the claim. Surely you know this.


So that's the one. You are completely wrong in thinking I implied anything and I think it is very foolish to make such a logical leap.

But since you've already made up your mind and it's already clear nothing I could say at this point would convince you otherwise, we are done.


Actually, as you have stated that the implication was unintentional, I recant the previous remarks that questioned the intent behind the claim; I had thought that you were simply being mean-spirited, but it seems that was not the case.

I apologise.



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01 Oct 2011, 5:54 am

My cousin is a very ''typical'' NT, but when she was a child she used to look like she had something wrong with her. She used to wear glasses, and had a blank face and never smiled. But otherwise her behaviour was typical for a child.
So some people can look like they've got something like Autism but not be Autistic, and vice-versa.
I think, unless someone is intensely rocking backwards and forwards and flapping their hands and doing other movements what's seen in a lot of Autistics, there is no telling if they are Autistic or not. Even when I hear people (mostly men) talking in monotone, I don't always assume they're Autistic. because I've seen a lot of young lads speaking in a monotonous sort of voice at times.
I think a lot of these sorts of things are stereotypical. I don't walk around with glasses on, carrying books.
My ears stick out, by the way.


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01 Oct 2011, 6:07 am

nemorosa wrote:
TwistedReflection wrote:
I hope that you realise that by stating the above that you have effectively broken the rules of this forum, as you are basically making a personal attack against swbluto; please refrain from this type of behaviour, or I shall inform a Moderator of your actions in due course.

You have been warned.


I don't think so. You have something of a "hair trigger". swbluto has thicker skin than that as I'm sure he'll agree.


Oh, you a-hole! Stop baselessly attacking me and stop polluting my threads with your vicious garbage!

:lol:

Just kidding.

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It could be all sorts of things including a personality disorder.


Like the personality disorder known as 'nerd', lol.

Anyway, I read that those with autism tend to have an odd gait, so I'd think it wouldn't necessarily be "hidden" if one looked closely enough. Of course, I could be entirely wrong. So, help me people and please stop trying to hide your own kind out of protection with this "hidden disability" fluff! I was just kidding with the "I want to make them my lab project". I promise I won't conduct harmful experiments nor will I use needles. Promise!



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01 Oct 2011, 7:38 am

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Anyway, I'm going to an ASD support meeting on Oct 25th so I can see the range of individuals that comprise the spectrum. It's going to be exciting for me to see what you guys are like in real life. :D


Well, that's good.

But, my ToM says it wont stop here, sw, even if you went to a 1000 of such meetings. There will always be in the back of your mind, "wait, I noticed there is a wide variance with this, and I couldn't tell so and so over there was on the spectrum-- maybe I'm on the spectrum, afterall."

Or as a hypothetical, if say, you went to a psychologist and they said ,"no you don't," would it close the "thought?" After some time later: " Maybe he missed something."
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It seems these obsessions will always feed on itself as there are no absolutes about anything-- it's a mad bottomless pit.

What one thing would it take to close it off either way? Nothing for the moment. You tell yourself: "just one more thing."



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01 Oct 2011, 8:07 am

I went to a support group. I'm not sure if it was all AS or autistic as well but there was something about people's faces.

Since diagnosis I keep looking out for any traits in others, looking for someone like me. It's a mixture of curiousity and solidarity.