The way that you speak, can people understand you?

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People say I mumble and talk too quietly...I've also had people ask me to speak in my "real voice" in the past, which was...weird.

Yes yes, all the time. Its an endless battle with my head and the brick wall

Something about the way I phrase things blows both NT's and aspies away often. Its not as bad as it used to be but people would say that while I annunciated just fine and spoke at a normal tone they just couldn't cognitively absorb it. Feels like pure magic sometimes.

no, but
they don't listen anyway

As a teenager my mind would try to analyze social interaction so hard that i would consistently studder and missplace words. people would arbitrarily assume i was full of s*** as i could never seem to look them in the eyes for more than a brief glance. my family and friends started to think that i was insensitive and that i cared only for myself. Even though they never said it i know they thought it. Though i always had strong feelings...perhaps stronger than most, i could never seem to convey them in words. And even when i could the monotone in my voice and my "stone face" would make people think i was faking or forcing it. This added more stress to my ever hyperactive mind, and further complicated my social problems. By 12th grade i had almost completely withdrawn from society. Dating was nearly impossible, women have always been attracted to me, but i could never connect even when they had made their interest clear. I moved 3000 miles across the country thinking that i would be more comfortable around people who didn't know me. It was very difficult at first, but after 8 years of being on my own i finally feel like it is not painfully obvious that i am "different". And after reading more into this disorder i feel confident and almost proud to tell people "i am not meant for this world" And though i know that that is the truth, i am finding it easier to conform to the one i have been placed in. Good friends help!

I've encountered nothing but trouble with the way I speak. I speak barely above a whisper. People tell me I mumnle and they can't hear me. I get told I have a monotone voice, but I've always seen my voice as masculine, not the usual lyrical expressive voice females are expected to have. I have also been told I speak like a scholar when I'm not one, which is rude to me. I was reading dictionaries between 5 or 6 and 8, so my natural vocabulary is a little weird compared to everyone else. The scorn I've always received for using my natural abilities stuns me every time.

volume has been a big problem for me as well, im probably told to speak up at least once a day. the monotone seems to diminish as i get on in years though.

my mother language is Dutch and i am very monotone in it(exactly as a robot would speak) but in English i am really great, i give speeches to imaginary people every day and they are really great and understandable. i always get bursts of idea's and thoughts and if i wanna tell them they come in streaks and then people want me to stop talking.