pastafarian wrote:
Why dont you just declare you dont say things you dont mean. When you really mean it, many women will believe that and know its true. To me sincerity is dead attractive (I'm an NT). Most of my NT friends dont swallow every glib compliment they get, I know many NTs seem to.
Yes it's important to realise that not everybody goes for hype and that it's not necessarily committing social suicide to insist on sncerity. I used to feel more confident about that until fairly recently.......my estranged wife would complain that I hardly ever complimented her appearance. My reply was "why don't you ask me what I like?" But she never did. I felt guilty about it because she never conceded that I had any kind of point, and it was clear that whatever the logic of the situation, I was denying her something she very much wanted. But I could never hold my nose long enough to deliver it. Frankly my sense of taste is poles apart from that of most modern people. My wife was much more sold on mainstream fashion, so naturally most of her stuff was wasted on me. Why she didn't even want to know what I liked, let alone dress that way, I have no idea. After a few years of living with that problem, I was beginning to think that her attitude was more ubiquitous than I'd previously thought............as if gradually all the nonconformists die out and we're left with nothing but middle-of-the-road mainstreamers. It might not be so far from the truth - socialists for example seem very few and far between these days.
23 Oct 2011, 3:48 pm
