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The_Wanderer
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14 Nov 2011, 8:39 pm

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Wait until you get around my age. It won't be a problem anymore.

Ooo! 8O Gotta go! See y-


Is there any way to perhaps get this benefit of aging a little sooner? Say around the age of 23? You might be on to something.



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14 Nov 2011, 8:56 pm

Yes, I used to wouldn't ever use a public restroom. Now that I'm older I'm better about it. I really don't like that I can see through the cracks of the public restrooms.

At home, my family used to try to talk to me while I was in the bathroom, that would drive me crazy. I do not want to be talked to through a door if I'm trying to use the restroom. I can't pee that way, and I also can't pee if they seem like they are right outside the door. Sometimes I will turn on the faucet when I'm in the bathroom, so then I can just believe that all they hear is running water... but really as if they don't know I'm in there peeing.



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14 Nov 2011, 9:04 pm

Oh, poop!

I can usually only go poo at home. Luckily(?) I can hold it for a few days (against my will,) so there are not any unfortunate "surprises" regarding sudden "jail breaks" when I am away from Safe Zone: Potty.

Does anyone else carefully measure out and fold the toilet paper in advance? Helps get me in the right mind set. Sometimes I get sad when the papers are neatly folded and stacked, and then get no release. Then the little pile just sits there mocking me for the rest of the day.

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14 Nov 2011, 9:44 pm

I'm willing to bet that most Aspies are folders, not wadders. True?



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14 Nov 2011, 10:19 pm

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I'm willing to bet that most Aspies are folders, not wadders. True?

folder here, though not terribly careful about it.

Burnbridge, a friend of mine is the same way. it was such an inconvenience that he eventually found "safe" bathrooms in various locations in case of emergency, places like posh department store facilities.



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15 Nov 2011, 2:35 am

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pete1061 wrote:
WOW, what a coincidence.
I was just thinking about posting a thread about this.
You are not alone (or maybe perhaps you want to be ;) )

I have always had a tough time with public restrooms and bathrooms at the houses of people I don't know well.
The busier the restroom, the worse it is. I'll even have a tough time if I know someone is waiting on me. I've had nightmare first dates where I couldn't go for hours. Then I'd have to end the date early, giving the wrong impression so that I can go find a "comfortable" restroom.

Urine tests for drugs, or for routine physical exams are particularly stressful for me. Even though I am totally clean. It will be nearly impossible to go because I know there some stranger outside that door waiting on me. I try to explain it to the medical staff, but they look at me like I'm insane.

FINALLY!! ! someone else who understands my problem.
Thank you for posting this thread.

What I would give to be able to freely and openly pee whenever and wherever I want.
(That doesn't sound too weird does it?)


Haha, finally someone who understands! I heard everything you said loud and clear buddy.

You think the first date thing was bad? Check this out: I was on probation for 2 years. My probation officer was the biggest dick in the world. I wasn't even in trouble for drug use, yet he called me a scum-bag junkie. He was so determined to catch me failing a urine test. He would stand behind me in this little single person bathroom. To add to the stress, this bathroom was even had a little mirror above the toilet angled at my crotch, so that he could see from behind. I was literally shaking in my bones, completely riddled with anxiety.

After several minutes of not being able to urinate he drops this question on me "what are so afraid of? You been using dope or something?" I pleaded for him to believe me that I hadn't used drugs. He did not believe a word I was saying about being stage-freight and he threatened to put me in jail. He told me that refusing to take a drug test was just as good as failing one!

My argument was I hadn't refused to take one, I was just physically was incapable or doing so. Thank god I was able to hold my ground and get out of there! I've never been so stressed out in my entire life...geez


Wow, your PO really was a total dick!

I am sooooo freakin grateful I never wound up in jail or prison. I have no idea how I would have handled it.
And believe me, I've done plenty of things that could have landed me in jail or prison. I have since cleaned up my act.



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15 Nov 2011, 2:41 am

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I'm more concerned about the unnecessarily high coefficient of friction between the toilet paper roller core and the thing that holds it in place. That, and the lack of tensile strength in the toilet paper roll itself as a result of the perforation. Combined, grabbing more than one square is impossible. Who in their right mind only uses one square?


I think some places do that on purpose to discourage people from using too much. I've noticed restrooms in public parks are particularly bad at doing this.

What gets me is in ads for toilet paper they always demonstrate the absorption of liquid waste, but they never demonstrate the paper's ability to remove solid waste. What's up with that? That's a TV commercial I would like to see, just for the laughs.



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15 Nov 2011, 4:41 am

YES, Finally someone other than just me.
Yeah i hate it i can be busting to go to the toilet and if another person walks in the restroom i just cant go... its soo annoying i have to have a mental argument with my bladder to relax..
yeah even if theres someone in the cubical next to me I cant go.



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15 Nov 2011, 6:45 am

It is a quite common problem. It is called Paruresis:

http://www.channel4embarrassingillnesse ... paruresis/

I have got it so severely that I once went nearly three days without going to the toilet and got a serious infection. I am now able to go in public but only in disabled toilets. I got a radar key (a key which is on disabled toilets in the UK) so I can go in peace! I still have to wear ear defenders or cover my ears and close my eyes though and it can take up to a minute before anything happens! As for pooping... NO WAY!! ! I would have to have severe upset stomach to do that and I am pretty much agoraphobic because of this fear! Darned IBS!

Also, Tourettes and toilets aren't good...


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15 Nov 2011, 10:54 am

As long as nobody is in the bathroom, I can do it just fine. I am this way at my college, I deliberately seek out bathrooms that I know people don't ever go into for whatever reason. I could be mid-business and just stop the moment someone walks in, nope, nothing to do here =D



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15 Nov 2011, 3:20 pm

there's no better place than your own toilet for doing a nice number two on, in fact I look forward to my daily trip to the loo for a good old number two. As for a pee, well I don't mind where I go. It's a pity we live in such a civilised society. :lol:



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09 Mar 2012, 4:26 am

The worst thing is being on a long distance flight and you have to use the toilet... nightmare stuff, that is!! !

Airplane toilets are tiny, smelly and there's always a queue waiting to go. You sit down to have a wee and there's turbulence and you nearly fall off the loo... so now you really can't go (not that you could anyway knowing there's a queue outside the door) but you remember you still have another 9 hours of flying to go... so you HAVE to go one way or the other... Noooo.

Using public toilets is the worst thing about travelling to me. Hate it! Makes me so anxious and spoils my trip.



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09 Mar 2012, 4:39 am

I'm fine in a busy public restroom, I mean, you can hear everyone else so what does it matter.

They'z just waterfallz!



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09 Mar 2012, 6:24 am

showing my age again- just be damned glad men's facilities don't have those trough-style urinals anymore! GAAAA!! ! 8O



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09 Mar 2012, 9:10 am

There was a time when I was younger when I wouldn't use public restrooms at all. I'm not so bad about that now.

I won't go if someone is watching me. If anyone ever wanted to watch me for a drug test I wouldn't do it and I guess I would have to put up with whatever consequences there were from that. I guess they would count it as a fail. I'd also probably want to refuse just out of principle and the fact that they would treat me like some druggie when I don't do any drugs or drink and am just modest and consider that an invasion of privacy is all the more reason to refuse.

I was thinking about this recently when I saw a person on a tv show get watched while getting a drug test and then later getting in trouble because they got a false positive.

I once got a false positive too. When I was in the mental hospital they wanted to watch me pee when I first got there and was on constant observation but I refused until they agreed to compromise by not letting me shut the door all the way but enough that they couldn't see me. I wouldn't do that either now unless I was incarcerated.



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09 Mar 2012, 9:37 am

hanyo wrote:
There was a time when I was younger when I wouldn't use public restrooms at all. I'm not so bad about that now.

I won't go if someone is watching me. If anyone ever wanted to watch me for a drug test I wouldn't do it and I guess I would have to put up with whatever consequences there were from that. I guess they would count it as a fail. I'd also probably want to refuse just out of principle and the fact that they would treat me like some druggie when I don't do any drugs or drink and am just modest and consider that an invasion of privacy is all the more reason to refuse.

I was thinking about this recently when I saw a person on a tv show get watched while getting a drug test and then later getting in trouble because they got a false positive.

I once got a false positive too. When I was in the mental hospital they wanted to watch me pee when I first got there and was on constant observation but I refused until they agreed to compromise by not letting me shut the door all the way but enough that they couldn't see me. I wouldn't do that either now unless I was incarcerated.


I wonder if pissing on their leg and telling them to wring it out into the jar would be a valid sample.