People saying ''sshhhh'' to you

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I am never shushed, but I hate it when other people are because the sound irks me. I hate being told to "speak up". It ticks me off.

I always go silent when somebody shushes me, don't know why but I actually do go mute for a little while; especially if I'm caught off guard with it. Still, I haven't had somebody do that for about 2 years now.

Yeah, it used to happen to me all the time. I found it really rude, as people have mentioned above.

I hate being told "shh!" The sound grates badly on my nervous system and it drives me up the wall. I remember once someone did this to me two or three times during a roleplaying game. After the game I sent him an e-mail asking that he stop doing that and just use words, and he made it into this huge epic drama about how I was being mean to him.

Whatever. I don't like "shh."

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I don't mind being asked to be more quiet, as I know I have a voice that just tends to travel far and be heard by all, but I've always hated "SHHHH." I've never really liked sound effects like that. I don't know why, I'd just prefer the person try speaking to me. Also, I never understood "SHHH!" I mean, I know what it means, but what I don't understand is they're trying to tell me to be quiet by making a usually fairly loud noise. It's a bit hypocritical and counterproductive, in my opinion.

I also hate it when someone's shushing you and you're not sure why, or if it's just for a trivial reason. Like the other day I was at my friend's house, and she came down the stairs talking at a normal tone (not whispering or anything), and she wasn't tiptoeing or creeping or trying to listen out for anything, and then she went to get something in her bag, then after about 4 seconds of a little silence I went to say something, and she suddenly looked up and said, ''ssshhh!'' and pointed to the wall, so it was something to do with the neighbours why she said that, and carried on rustling about in her bag, then started talking loud again. I was confused as to why she shushed me like that, because I knew she wasn't listening out for anything, because usually when she does she stops moving all together and I can just tell that it's wise for me not to speak. And what I had said was nothing private, it was just relavent to what she was saying, and because I usually have a quiet voice I didn't say anything loud anyway.

Sometimes that annoys me when she does that. It makes me frightened to say anything when I'm in her house because she seems very obsessed with what her next door neighbour is doing (see, NTs can have strange behaviour too), and if she hears one little bang coming from next door, or a strange car parked near her house, she'd tiptoe around the house, pressing her ear against the wall, and hissing ''ssshhhhh!'' to me each time she tiptoes past me, then taps me on the shoulder and goes, ''ssshhhh!'', and then all of a sudden she starts talking normally again. Then the other day I heard a whole load of bangs coming from next door and someone talking, so I went quiet and thought to myself ''OK time to be quiet again'', but she heard it but still carried on talking loudly. So I sometimes find her very awkward.
It's just annoying when she keeps on repeatively telling me to ssshhhh, like I'm going to start shouting or something. I am good with reading body language, and so when somebody's tiptoeing about trying to listen out for something, I immediately know when to shut up.

It's not that it hurts my ears, it's just always been something I don't like. I tend to not shush other people if I can help it, but some people do it all the time, as though they're assuming you're going to be loud all the time when you are only a quiet person.

I've always hated being shushed. I can't stand that sound and I find it very condescending. I haven't been shushed for years now, but I still have memories about it. At least I could talk. A lot of autistic kids can't.

Yes I've been "shushed" or disrespected a lot (as if people ressented the fact I was expressing myself for some reason)

I used to hang with friends who were appalled at how people (like vendors/clerks/strangers) were treating me, people who spoke to me as if I was a 10yr old, condescending me, laugh when I speak out, or imply that I speak too much/loud (by shushing, rolling their eyes, frowning) etc...

Since it bothered me a lot I once talked to my close friends about it.

The conclusion is that, no, I don't speak too loud, nor too much nor am too aggressive, BUT rather, my charisma was so low, that people didn't judge that I could get away with expressing myself.
Some people get away with speaking too loud, too much, with getting angry easily... they are "respected". We all know them. Then there are people who can't get away with it, because they lack charisma.

I don't know if this was clear, I hope you get the idea.

Shushing is quicker than a full sentence. Especially if the shusher doesn't want to be guilty of being too loud either.

NT people say "SH" to each other all the time.