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24 Nov 2011, 4:18 am

Joe90 wrote:
This is why I don't smile. I knew I was hideous. Now I feel even more self-conscious about my smile but will have everybody criticising me to smile, I am debating to myself whether to have all of my top teeth taken out and put false teeth in. Either that or I will f***ing kill myself. Now everybody knows I have AS just by smiling, and I don't want everybody knowing I have AS. I know others here will convince me that I must love the whole world knowing that I have AS, but I don't. Why not convince somebody who has cancer to love to want the whole world knowing they have cancer?


your words are deeply concerning. honestly i dont understand why you would be here with such a negative attitude. By all means i do not mean to put you down, i wish i could say something to inspire, but i think it may be lost on you. The way you are looking at things is a CHOICE. perhaps less so if you have depression in addition to autism, in which case perhaps you should seek treatment for that.

however my best attempt at inspiration is this :
you find yourself in the most unique place in the known universe. the surface of a minuscule particle of stardust called Earth. Life is all around you, and you have eyes to see it. I dont know what you specifically believe you are missing out on, but taken in wider view of your situation, whatever it is is relatively insignificant. Whatever your limitations are, make the most of your abilities, because crying about your disadvantages will accomplish absolutely nothing. Im sure my words are far from new news, but their significance is simple and relevant. Internalize it.



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24 Nov 2011, 4:23 am

Burnbridge wrote:
Um...yeah, this is me
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I scare me sometimes


that is awesome

everyone

i dont understand why you are looking at this feature in negative light. to me the goofy smile signifies a genuine quality of amusement, which i can relate to. It is uninhibited because we are unable to in that real moment. i dont understand why you would want to conform to the mold of neurotypicality



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24 Nov 2011, 5:02 am

My smiles have always looked weird. I could never understand why mine looked funny. For a while I hated having my picture taken and I hated to smile in them. Now I don't care about my smiles anymore and I just laugh about it and call them stupid or ret*d if I don't like them. You gotta have a sense of humor and laugh at yourself and make fun of yourself.

One of my online friends has told me I look autistic in them. One other aspie has pointed out how he can tell one of my smiles is fake and gave me a lecture about how to make them look real but honestly I didn't care. One of my aspie friends online, he always looks special needs in his photos. He has this special needs look on his face and he looks normal.