Can I have some perspective on this?

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That's pretty nasty, telling you your behaviour is going to cause your father to die of a heart attack. Tell your parents what he said lol. Act all innocent "is it true..?" Hopefully they will call him out on his behaviour.

SylviaLynn what type of outsider might shout at me? A policeman maybe?

lol speaking of that my brother is at college training too be a policeman at the moment

your brother should never have said your father can have a heart attack because of you. it was way out of place and he shouldn't shout.
my worst regret is not going to college when i had a chance. you're still young. go now. i was afraid to go out among people too, but went to work and learned to get over it, and now i'm not so afraid anymore.
there are many jobs for us aspies out there. computers, medical research, etc... maybe there's a place you can get a test to show you what are your talents and what path you should take. but go now, because if you go to college too late no one will hire you when you get out. you can still do it. try it at least. in computer, for instance, they hire you based on your abilities and brilliant mind, and we aspies do have those, and not on your social skills. many aspies go that path. you'll make tons of money and you won't regret it.
sooner or later, you'll have to get a job and you said you want to spread your wings and make a better life. if you work in an unskilled labor kind of job you'll work your head off for peanuts in a boring, annoying, mind numbing...
help some around the house and go to college. my niece is in college now and she only goes four days a week anyway, and they have breaks and vacations. there's nothing to it. and who knows, you might just find your obsession in computers/chemistry/biology, whatever.
i know it takes courage for a aspie to face the outside world. i've been there. be brave and do it for england. i keep my fingers crossed...

1. Heart attacks are caused by high cholesterol, smoking, bad nutrition, overweight, high blood pressure, lack of exercise and so on. Not by other people's behavior.

2. Your brother or anybody else should talk only for themselves, unless he would be the president. Is he a spokesman for the society? He is only one simple man, and if he's feeling bothered by high taxes or the like, he can't take it out on one person.

3. Lethargy is a downward spiral and key symptom for depression. The less you do, the less you can do. Unlike your brother, i don't believe that a person could actually enjoy lethargy.

An occupational therapy could help you to get started.

So does your brother thinks you can magically be something you're not? Blaming you for any of your family's problems, especially your father's health, seems either to be a stupid and cruel attempt to motivate you or just plain anger and bullying.

If you want to "spread your wings" try looking into community support programs - volunteering can be a good place to start.

my repetitive behaviour can be seen as bullying by others as well.