My life is a series of misunderstandings

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Do people believe things about you that aren't true, or not?

If they do then you can't say the problem is Aspergers unless they have Aspergers, or unless Aspergers means you believe incorrect things about yourself.

Or the people doing the misperceiving aren't very bright?

I doubt intelligence has much to do with it.

It does in my experience.

Some misunderstandings based on verbal or written communication could be attributed to low intelligence. However I don't see how intelligence could be a factor in misinterpreting body language.

"However I don't see how intelligence could be a factor in misinterpreting body language."

The difference between "I don't understand this. I'd better investigate further" and "I don't understand this but I'll assume I do" is largely a matter of intelligence, don't you think?

"Not everyone around you is an complete idiot and I doubt everyone around me is."

Indeed, and the smart ones can understand me perfectly well. I have every evidence required to conclude that there is something wrong with people who misinterpret me.

I am just trying to get more information and figure things out and I can't believe I am being responded to in such a manner. Fraac I ask you again, what is the purpose of your questioning me and replying in the way you are doing?

AS is the simplest explanation I have at the moment for all the things I have been wondering about, not just what I have described in this thread but various other life experiences that I do not have any other explanation for. I am not trying to make a huge leap into saying I have it when I don't know for sure. I am simply weighing all the information I take in and trying to understand my life experiences in that context.

The only other explanation I have found reasonable is NVLD, and there was something I read in a description of it that made me think it is less likely but I can't recall offhand what it was.

Let's say you probably have Aspergers. That ought to completely change the way you see yourself in the world. You'll have to come up with a new consistent model of how things work. I'm trying to help you not rush to any conclusions while you're forming that model.

Intelligent people test and revise their assumptions. Once an intelligent person had misread you once they would be inclined to do better next time.

While he comes across a little rude, fraac does make a valid point. If someone misunderstands something that someone with aspergers had tried to communication; logically it would make sense that the to person with aspergers hasn't communicated effectively. Afterall, aspergers only effects one party in communication with NTs as pointed out. This is interesting food for thought but for me it gets more complicated because if you think about it, intelligence could play an additional factor. For example, someone with a higher IQ understanding someone with aspergers better than normal could take something the way it was originally intended.

dianthus, take this test I gave to borderline personality people: http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/534679/results

I suggest that smart bpds will misread you far less than other nonautistics. They're also fun. Worth seeking out.