Why are some people so nasty?

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People are so full of sh*t. This is the explanation

The guy gets wasted to the point where he probably doesn't care what others think, and maybe that's one reason why he drinks - to not care. You appear to care too much about how others react to you, though it's easy to see how that formed in the climate in which you live. From what you've written, I sense that you are putting on a face that you think the world should see. (Correct me if I'm wrong.) Your persona sounds a bit too good to be true. I think it's a trap some of us might fall into when we're trying to be as presentable as possible. People might feel like you're not entirely genuine.

I'm fairly certain that if you put a graph representing numbers of happy/polite people next to a graph representing national IQ's the results would be shocking...

I'm going to be honest... I am having a be honest to everyone week this week... I think you look into other people too much and see things that aren't there. You have social anxiety which makes you worried that you are doing something wrong, so when someone laughs near you, your mind automatically switches to 'they're laughing at ME' mode. I used to think people were staring before I developed Tourettes. When I developed Tourettes, people wouldn't stop staring at me. I don't blame them really, I do look kind of weird convulsing around all over the place. It has made me realise though that the 'staring' I was getting before was entirely in my head and not real.

As for the drunk guy, I expect a lot of people laugh at him as soon as they get round the corner. The ones who don't are probably like me and know someone who is an alcoholic. People are more likely to react with laughter or fear to what they don't understand. Unfortunately AS and it's associated behaviours are not really understood, whereas people see the guy with the beer in his hand and say 'oh he is drunk'. I expect not many people would dare to laugh AT him because drunks can be unpredictable so possibly violent. I'm not saying this guy is, but that's the average idea of what people think drunk is. The late night binge drinkers do nothing to get rid of this stereotype.

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Maybe people sense something about you that makes you an easy target or you're trying a bit hard to conform? And who knows, maybe the whiskey guy let whoever messed with him have it and thats why people leave him alone or they dont see him as an easy target. Lifes like that though from experience

If someone says something mean about you and you don't know why, ask them directly for the why.