Would you as a aspie be accepting of another aspies....

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21 Dec 2011, 2:09 pm

iceveela wrote:
special interests?

If someone with aspergers came up to you and started talking physics, or about sports cars, would you pay attention, or would you be more obsessed over the fact that they are a aspie? I mean, if you have no interest in physics or sports cars, would you just lose interest the same way you would if anyone else told you about physics or sports cars?

(darn my capacity to ask weird, thought provoking questions...)

I personally might be too interested in the fact that they are another aspie and pay more attention to their body structure, way of speaking, clothing style, etc to even know they are talking to me...

But if our interests match.... oh goodness... we would never stop talking... (happened in middle school BTW... my best friend had.... i would guess high functioning autism. and away we went about astronomy! He would always sit with a group of people, and I hate sitting with more than one person...)

anyways! What would you do?


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21 Dec 2011, 2:13 pm

Oh, I would like to listen to someone talking about raccoons. They're interesting animals, and I don't know enough about them.


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21 Dec 2011, 6:23 pm

Verdandi wrote:
I spend enough time telling people about my interests that I try to listen to others talking about theirs.

Unfortunately, sometimes their interests really are not interesting to me. :(


Ditto. I'm guilty of being an otaku band geek so most people are way too mainstream for me to get along with. I try though. :)



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21 Dec 2011, 6:37 pm

Sorry :( but both physics and sports cars bore me to death. I would allow you to talk about your interests for as long as you wanted and pretend like I was listening.
I would be more interested in the fact that you had aspergers.

If I met an aspie with similar interests as mine I would be very interested and we would have a very long conversation.
I can not pretend to be interested in a subject that bores me even if the person does have AS. I would not expect that person to fake an interest in my interests.
Everyone ignores me when I talk about my interests. I would assume that all people with AS are pretty used to being ignored when it comes to their special interests.


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21 Dec 2011, 6:38 pm

It depends. If it's something they all ever talked about and they never talked about nothing else, I would get bored with it quick. If it's boring, I have a hard time listening to them and I end up zoning out and not even paying attention to them. I do this to everybody. I then end up doing my own thing. I wish I could tell them I am not interested in what they are doing but that be rude. :(

To answer the OP, I may find it all boring and not pay any attention to them and just do my own thing. In fact I would probably talk about something else ignoring what they are saying. They can talk about their stuff and I can talk about mine.



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21 Dec 2011, 6:56 pm

Verdandi wrote:
I spend enough time telling people about my interests that I try to listen to others talking about theirs.

Unfortunately, sometimes their interests really are not interesting to me. :(
Oh, really? The only Aspies I know in real life (two in all) share my interest of video games, so I can't say I've had the experience of listening to boring interests.