A really weird situation...

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Sometimes an entire group will get sucked into a negative vibe. More common when the days are growing shorter. The young lady should mind her own business, but you don't need to tell her that. Maybe Jon will. A good response would have been to say to Jon, "Well, it's okay if you don't want to talk about it." On of the best things you can do for your friends is be okay with how they are.

Yeah, if you really want to know what's going on (I would. But then again, curiosity killed the cat, did it not?) you might want to try approaching the most calm and logical one of the group and asking for details in private.

However, these two shrews sound about as interesting as drywall (unless you're obsessed with drywall. No offense if you are.) and so, as hard as this may seem, you might want to try and find a new group to hang out with...

This actually made me pee'd off from reading it.

If these people are really your friends, then why would it all collapse over something so minor? Either you're not telling us something, or they have more mental problems than we do. Talk to this friend who had the supposed problem, explain yourself and sort out the trouble from there. You may have missed something though. This situation doesn't sound right...

Well, it's a new day now. I'm going to see if I can talk to Jon at my locker before sixth period to see what's going on. My class is allowed to be late to first period anyway, so that works. I'll see if he'll be able to talk to Brenda before lunch. During lunch, I'll sit back at that table as usual and if things get even worse today, I'll start sitting with Carlene. Oh, and I'm not leaving out any details about the whole situation. This is how messed up it really is. See why I'm confused? High school is so weird...

Somehow, you may have pissed off your friends. This doesn't necessarily mean you're in the wrong. These high-school types can be easily pissed off and pissed off for all the wrong and most shallow reasons. This same thing happened to me in high school. I had some friends in 8th grade and they started giving me the cold shoulder. I kept trying to fit in until I was forceably removed from the social circle. I ended up not having any friends for most of high-school. I would go to the library to read, or walk around during lunch to hide the fact that I did not have anyone to eat lunch with. By the way, this isn't advice. Don't be like I was! It was terribly lonely. It's nice to have friends. I haven't had any in many years lol, but I have someone coming over tomorrow... Make new friends if you don't figure this out? I hope to make a friend tomorrow!! !

Sit with Carlene, you said it went well sitting with her at lunch anyway. From what you've posted there's nothing to say she does not accept you.

But what struck me is, you're a senior and Brenda and Jessica are freshmen. There's nothing wrong with sitting with them, but:

People are ignorant at times, and

When you're at high school, the age gap between you and them is considered a vast chasm.

I think the age difference is the thing. When you hang with people younger than you in high school it can lead to unfortunate situations at the hands of ignorant people. Unfortunatey, if you hang out with freshmen, these types of situations can get worse, or more persistent.

I speak from experience, as I didn't get on with people in my own year group, nor was I accepted by them. As I progressed through high school I got on better and made good friends with those in the younger age groups. This earned me a reputation that I would not have wished to have. It was even worse as my high school was 6 years, not 4 years like American schools usually are (my 5th or 6th year would be equivalent in age to your senior year).

If they ask you not to sit at the table again, ask why. You have the right to an explanation.

Say it's ok with you but you want to know why. If they say: you know what you did, say: no I don't, what? Keep going untill they tell you, don't change tables untill you get an answer.

I think Brenda totally overacted she has blown the whole thing out of proportion. You were only stating a fact, the guys mood was okay in the morning, sort of speaking aloud, as in he was okay this morning I wonder what happened inbetween to make him upset?you said nothing wrong, or rude or hurtful just a fact, you were trying to reason what could be wrong with him. They are being silly, don't worry.

Be bold! Catch Brenda in a quiet corner and ask her politely but squarely what her problem is with you..Bear in mind that it could well be a group thing so do not be antagonistic. This will place her on the spot and she will have to tell you what it is and you can then set the record straight.

Sorry I haven't been on here lately. I was busy the entire weekend! Anyway, here's everything that happened. I sat with my freshman friends on Friday while Brenda and Jessica (and a couple other people) sat at the table next to us. You know, like how it's been. It seemed like everything was going just fine. Anyway, as we were all leaving the cafeteria to go to the rest of fourth period, Brenda confronted me along with Jessica and she just started screaming and swearing in my face. I ignored most of it (it was all just pointless). But I at least did find out why she was so mad. Marina, who sits in front of me on my bus in the mornings and sits with us at lunch, had told Brenda that I had been "talking smack about her on the bus". That particular morning, I spent the entire time just listening to music. Marina told Brenda that when I was on the bus, I had said I wanted to kill all the poor people in a field. Trust me, it was really, really stupid. Brenda continued screaming at my face and I just said whatever and walked back up to class. I later reported it to the dean, who talked to Brenda but did nothing else. Later on, Jon told me that Brenda called me a b**** and never wanted to talk to me again. I told him that she was the one that was being a b**** and that was perfectly fine with me. So basically that's what's happened now. I didn't ride the bus this morning (Mom takes me on Mondays because we go to school an hour later) and I didn't see Marina at all today. I'm not going to be seeing her on the bus in the afternoons anymore since I am now taking half-days for the rest of the year. I'm just glad this whole situation is sorted out! At least for all I know anyway...

I think somebody needs their medication adjusted,(and it's probably not you.)

Start your own table. Or sit at the table anyway.

There's no possible way of doing that. Our cafeteria is so crowded that people are still in line until five minutes 'til the bell rings, some people are so desperate that they're sitting on the floor, and some people go and eat in the hallways (although they get screamed at by our evil dean). My school used to be rural recently I'm assuming and it just recently had a huge boom of students coming in, and I'm one of them. Apparently my school has doubled in students since two years ago. Basically, it's insane.

Okay, here's another update on the situation. Brenda had been sitting with Jessica and Lily, and was leaving me completely alone for the last couple of days. Chealsea, and all my other freshmen "friends" had been with me the whole time, except for Marina, who now sits somewhere else. Anyway, today Brenda went over to our table and started yelling at me. When she left, I was discussing with everyone of that everything happening was so stupid and pointless. I also said if she ever tried to fight me, I knew Tae Kwon Do and I could take care of myself. Anyway, Chelsea went right over to where Brenda was and told her immediately. Brenda came storming back and wanted me to fight her right then and there. I told her no and that I didn't want to get in trouble. She said, "fine, then I'll just fight you" and quite a few other things. I went right over to our assistant principal and told him what was going on. He pulled Brenda over and talked to her for a couple minutes. In the meantime, everyone else was interrogating me on what I was telling him. Anyway, Brenda came back over and started threatening me more. I went back over to our assistant principal and told him she was still harrassing me and that she wouldn't leave me alone. He told me he'd contact the police and have everyone in on it arrested. I thanked him and left the cafeteria. On the way to class later, I saw him in the hall and asked for the latest details. He told me the police had already taken them to jail. So much for their fall break! lol

Okay, here's another update on the situation. Brenda had been sitting with Jessica and Lily, and was leaving me completely alone for the last couple of days. Chealsea, and all my other freshmen "friends" had been with me the whole time, except for Marina, who now sits somewhere else. Anyway, today Brenda went over to our table and started yelling at me. When she left, I was discussing with everyone of that everything happening was so stupid and pointless. I also said if she ever tried to fight me, I knew Tae Kwon Do and I could take care of myself. Anyway, Chelsea went right over to where Brenda was and told her immediately. Brenda came storming back and wanted me to fight her right then and there. I told her no and that I didn't want to get in trouble. She said, "fine, then I'll just fight you" and quite a few other things. I went right over to our assistant principal and told him what was going on. He pulled Brenda over and talked to her for a couple minutes. In the meantime, everyone else was interrogating me on what I was telling him. Anyway, Brenda came back over and started threatening me more. I went back over to our assistant principal and told him she was still harrassing me and that she wouldn't leave me alone. He told me he'd contact the police and have everyone in on it arrested. I thanked him and left the cafeteria. On the way to class later, I saw him in the hall and asked for the latest details. He told me the police had already taken them to jail. So much for their fall break! lol

Okay, here's another update on the situation. Brenda had been sitting with Jessica and Lily, and was leaving me completely alone for the last couple of days. Chealsea, and all my other freshmen "friends" had been with me the whole time, except for Marina, who now sits somewhere else. Anyway, today Brenda went over to our table and started yelling at me. When she left, I was discussing with everyone of that everything happening was so stupid and pointless. I also said if she ever tried to fight me, I knew Tae Kwon Do and I could take care of myself. Anyway, Chelsea went right over to where Brenda was and told her immediately. Brenda came storming back and wanted me to fight her right then and there. I told her no and that I didn't want to get in trouble. She said, "fine, then I'll just fight you" and quite a few other things. I went right over to our assistant principal and told him what was going on. He pulled Brenda over and talked to her for a couple minutes. In the meantime, everyone else was interrogating me on what I was telling him. Anyway, Brenda came back over and started threatening me more. I went back over to our assistant principal and told him she was still harrassing me and that she wouldn't leave me alone. He told me he'd contact the police and have everyone in on it arrested. I thanked him and left the cafeteria. On the way to class later, I saw him in the hall and asked for the latest details. He told me the police had already taken them to jail. So much for their fall break! lol