Can you tell by looking at someone if they are an NT or not?

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Would have helped if I had been more like my mum. Miss social butterfly never short of a friend and always engaged to somebody (engaged 8 times married 3 times). I have not even managed to get married once!

She could have passed some of it on to me.

My brothers got it...they are never out of a relationship or short of friends!

Well, if I didn't know any better, I'd say you are just another NT in the video. Why wouldn't you?

I look NT but I don't feel like an NT and I don't identify with them at all.

Actually I identify more with the people on here and as their way of thinking makes more sense to me. Whether I am NT or not I guess I prefer the company of Aspies lol. I also find most of them to be highly intelligent and more understanding of difference. I feel in many ways they are more advanced than the NT population.

Yes, it does look as if you may have inherited your social problems from your dad Bumble. And from how you describe him it is perhaps likely he may had an ASD, although I guess at this point we can only surmise. Sorry to hear that no one liked him, and that they refused to let their children play with you; that seems overly harsh and unfair to me; and couldn’t have been easy for you. What was called psychopathic back in the 1970s might well have been diagnosed as something different now, perhaps even as autistic. The idea that autistic people are cold and emotionless is I feel a very damaging myth. I really don’t believe the vast majority of autistic people truly lack empathy. They have difficulty reading social cues and so may not pick up on how another person is feeling easily; but once they do know, they are I feel just as capable of empathy as your average NT. So I’m sure your dad cared for you Bumble; it may just not have always been easy for him to show it.

As for me, well thus far I’ve not encountered any other dyslexics who have problems socialising; seems to be just me. So the chances are it’s something else that is at the root of my difficulties. My mother wasn’t the best at socialising and so perhaps I inherited my social problems from her. But I think I got my dyslexia from my dad. After he died, I read some of the stuff he had written and it had classic signs of dyslexia. Like you, my brother is quite extrovert and good at socialising and never short of friends. I on the other hand have one real life friend, someone I chat too at work. A few years ago I use to have a number of cyber-friends I would talk too; but I managed to ostracise pretty much all of them in one foul swoop, by sticking up for someone they didn’t like very much. When you are the way we are it’s not always easy making friends; so if you ever fancy a cyber-friend I’d be happy to offer my services. You seem like a very nice person Bumble. And I am certain that I’m not the only one who thinks that. And so I dare say there is still time for you to be engaged 8 times and married 3, if you really want to be.