Females with aspergers/autism

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I'm not "chameleon-like" at all. From a very early age, other kids knew I was different and made sure I knew I was different. I couldn't have blended in even if I wanted to. I didn't receive a diagnosis until after I started college, but I think that has more to do with the fact that I went to catholic school from kindergarten to 12th grade than my gender, but that may have played a role as well. The teachers and administration blamed my outbursts (especially from k to 3rd grade when they were the worst and most frequent), inability to socialize with my classmates, and other general "weirdness" on the fact that my parents were divorced ("from a broken home" as they liked to put it) and my mother worked full time. I don't have meltdowns very often anymore, though, but even in middle and high school, I would withdraw rather than start crying or yelling like I did when I was younger. If I do, I usually just skip straight to mutism. I was always interested in art, but I also love mathematics. It kind of matches me, I guess. I also haven't met any other aspies in person, male or female, to my knowledge, so I don't know if this is true for most or not.

As for the list, I am dubious about any innate differences between men and women on the spectrum, at least any more than are present in the general population.

I have practically all of those, except for the hunger one, not quite sure what that's about, since my digestion is and always has been fine. In fact I'm physically ''normal'', except for my sinuses and ears but I don't associate that with having AS, that's just something I have.

But otherwise, all of those traits apply to me.

Just came across the list of female asperger traits today. One idea it could include on the list is,

"Is often the target of bullies throughout her lifetime."

Well I don't see why there wouldn't be little differences between males and females on the spectrum, just like there are little differences between NT males and NT females.

Practically all of the points listed in the first link do describe me.

I do have more of an expressive face and I don't normally talk in monotone, unless I'm nervous of someone.
And I tend to become more obsessed with certain people rather than objects, facts, or media-type interests.
And I am generally good at expressing how I feel, I am naturally able to tell people how I'm feeling about different things and I've never had much trouble with this. I've always been and still am very open about how I feel.
I was only diagnosed in childhood because I was at a school where there was a really good Special Needs assistant who was practically an expert on ASDs.
I can get excited and maybe clap my hands, but not when out in public or with people who don't know me that well.
I do cry a lot and I am prone to ''outbursts'', but I don't do this in public. Also sensory overloads don't cause meltdowns. I can become snappy and irritable when hungry, but only to an NT degree. I don't think I have sensory overloads either, if I go in somewhere that is too loud I just think in my head, ''a bit loud in here for me'' but learn to bear with it, or I just calmly walk away. If a loud sudden noise occurs like a car alarm, I just jump and feel annoyed inside but don't show it on the outside. In short, I am generally able to keep my cool.
I am not very tolerant of other people's ways and habits.
I do hate injustice and being misunderstood, and I also desire proper reasons for overwhelming situations. This can throw me in a rage.
I have selective mutism, I mostly go mute when I'm at a social event where there's lots of people who I don't know. It's not from being unable to cope, it's just from Social Phobia and severe shyness (which is a co-morbid with me).
I can cope with social situations in small doses, and I do like to meet friends too (I don't mind how long I spend with friends whom I am comfortable with). I can appear ''normal'' to others and can maintain friendships.