How do you get along with other Aspies?

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I've met some other Aspies in person, and I seem to get along with them about as well as I do with NTs.

I get along well with Aspies or anyone else who has an ASD. I can get along with NTs but they tend to get fed up with me quickly because I'm very blunt, obsessive, and barely pick up on any social cues. That is, unless I disclose, in which case they tend to become much more tolerant.

To Aspie or not to Aspie, that is a question... In my life there have been certain types of individuals whom have shared the same sense / inclination enough to get along with rather well. It has not mattered, in the larger picture, what label they go by or identify with, but they all have shared certain interests of investigating experience and the worlds around us. Basically the common factors have been a) discovering the nature of perception in general and b) just being silly and in so doing discovering bits of our nature that had not been made free before.

In general, people on the spectrum put me at my ease enough to challenge myself, whereas NT's seem to make things more problematic than need be, but that is of course nothing but a rash generalization. Situations regardless of label venue are awkward and often filled with anxiety but, well, gosh darn it, i'll go and quote anne, "it's not what the world holds for you, it's what you bring to it."

At the moment I've been seeking out indivudals who are AS but am also craving situations that are mixed with diversity. Finding diversity that is welcoming to diversity, however, is proving to be more difficult than hoped. Basically, I don't think labels are the obstacle keeping people from finding those that challenge us and help us to grow.

I most definately find other Aspies easier to get along with. There's no offence taken at blunt honesty, and we are generally on the same wavelength.

I know I'm more fortunate than most, as from being invoved in Sci-fi conventions and the various fandoms, I have a fair few Aspie friends in real life, and I'm doubly fortunate that my partner is also on the spectrum. NT friends are bemused at the fact that arguments are non existant, due to the fact that if one of us doesn't understand what the other is getting at during a discussion, a simple "please clarify" or "I don't understand" is sufficient to avoid any of the misunderstandings that relationships with NT's seem to be fraught with.

Don't get me wrong, I don't hate NT's and have NT friends, but I certainly find other Aspies FAR easier social companions. They say what they mean!

Both the most intense arguments and some of the best friendships I've ever had were with other autistic people. Sometimes both with the same person.

It varies from person to person. I don't necessarily get along with somebody better just because they have Asperger syndrome.
I will say, however, that I seem to get along with "real life" autistics much better than people on forums such as this one. (By "real life" I mean in the flesh.) I think it's because with a real life person you get what you see, but through a computer you have no idea what a person is really like. It's pretty much a mystery, a guessing game, and I find it confusing and a little overwhelming. I am very suspicious of people online, which is an issue I think I need to work on because it certainly isn't making me any friends.

There's my father and my nephew, both who have AS. I get/got along with them well enough.

I usually get along with a single person well enough (pretty much always, actually). Everyone else I've interacted with has been "NT".

It's when groups are thrown in that problems arise. For some reason, groups and me just don't mix.

I haven't known many. They aren't crazy, which is a big plus, but they tend to be quite lifeless (externally). I need playful people to play with.

I associate playfulness with ADHD people. Those are great.