Never able to relax, always tesnse???

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I am unable to relax when out in public. I can't do anything without thinking that people are watching me and taking in everything I do, and when I hear people laughing I always think they're laughing at me. I enjoy getting the bus, and in fact buses are what I'm obsessed with, but even when I'm on the bus I still don't relax properly. I am always on edge because of somebody might bring a baby on the bus what might have temper tantrums, or somebody might sit next to me with their baby on their lap, or sit behind me with the baby kicking my seat (and I can't stand that). Also I've always got to keep my eyes away from other people's eyes because I seem to have an intense fear of catching strangers looking at me. I know they stare at me when I'm not looking at them (f**k knows why), at least I can't worry too much because a) I can't know for sure if they are looking at me or not, and b) I can try to convince myself that they are just looking in my direction and not at me. I know people say it's good to have people looking at you (people have called me lucky before), but I don't like it. It's just an obsessive fear I have that I can't seem to reason with or get talked out of. And it just makes me feel tense when I'm out in public.

As for at home, I do feel relaxed most of the time because it is my comfort zone and I can be myself more. But if my uncle or brother are about, I do get all tensed up because they are the types of people who are liable to criticise at any little thing, especially people like me because I don't do the things what I am expected to do, and I can't take criticism very well and I get very angry when people criticise me over certain things, like my age. I absolutely loathe it when people say things like, ''you should be doing X, you're old enough'', or ''you're an adult now, you should do Y'', and I just hate it. Although I like to feel independant and be called ''woman'' or ''young lady'' rather than ''girl'', I still feel that ''adult'' is a strong word for me. I've been called an adult ever since I was 14 basically, and it has always made me feel older than I am, and makes me feel more pressured or guilty that I should be doing more with my life. But you can't tell my uncle or my brother this because they don't listen and just think I'm being silly. Once my uncle said, ''you're a fully grown-up adult now--'' and I was like, ''yes, I've established that, no need for the description!'' or I feel like saying, ''yes, I'm old enough to vote too but that doesn't mean I have to do it!'' It's so annoying when everything someone else says my uncle has to bring me into it, even if the conversation has nothing to do with me. And so I can't relax properly when there are people like my brother and especially my uncle about, no matter how much I love them.