Answering the door or telephone

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You know what makes me feel *really* good though?
When someone stops by my (now internet only) shop looking for something, I say, "I'm sorry, I'm not open to the public anymore."
That feels Great.

Maybe you guys could try something similar...when someone pops in uninvited, just say, "I'm sorry, I'm in the middle of something. Please call next time."

...but that won't work (for them) if you don't answer the phone.

I only answer my mobile, where I can see who is calling. I've stopped answering my regular phone, and I'll only open my door if I know someone is coming, or I've ordered takeout.

I have caller ID on my phone so I know who is calling me. I don't answer if I don't know the phone number. I hate answering the door if I am not expecting someone.

Hardly anyone ever comes to my door, except UPS or USPS.

When I lived in my parents' house, I never answered the door. I even avoided answering when my granny came over. One of the neighbors with really bad manners would keep knocking on the door, trying to peep through the blinds and later would tell my dad he could hear me walking around inside the house. I can't stand that guy.

I won't answer the phone unless I know who it is. And sometimes knowing who it is, means I am damn sure NOT going to answer the phone.

No trouble at all with either...

anymore.


These days, I answer the door and phone when I'm damned good and ready. If I'm not up to either, I just don't bother. I love caller ID. My friends all know I might check trough the upstairs window to see who's at the door, and that I may not come down right away, or maybe an hour or so later. I don't worry about any of it anymore. Interestingly, my NT friends to the same thing. Seems it's not an Aspie thing at all. Pretty much everyone I know does this "screening" thing.

We all know that we'll eventually get in touch. No problems at all.

There was a time when I was younger when I just wouldn't answer the phone or door at all. I also went in my room and shut and locked the door if we had company over.

Now answering the door isn't that big a deal since no one ever really shows up at my house unexpected. We have caller id now so I at least know who is calling before I answer. If I don't recognize the name or number I usually don't answer.

I have huge issues with answering the door. Not the phone, due to caller id, and to the fact that I text mostly. My phone rings 4 times a month or so.
When the doorbell rings I panic. I hate uninvited guests. When I was living with my last boyfriend (it has gotten worse through time), when there was a knock on the door I'd go hide in the bathroom and he'd open the door, and if I didn't feel comfortable with the guest I'd stay in the bathroom throughout their whole visit. Luckily for them we had 2 bathrooms lol

I'm an expert at "playing out" when the phone rings or there's a knock on the door

I hate answering the door or phone, because I don't want to interrupt whatever I'm doing for the sake of (almost certainly boring) social interaction.
My home time is my alone time.

I feel you.

Both the doorbell and the phone ringing give me a jolt of nervousness/anxiety/desire to hide; and, usually, me hiding is exactly what happens, at least with the doorbell. With the telephone I just will look at the caller ID and turn off the ringer; I don't even answer for good family friends or my grandmother and things like that. I loathe making phone calls, too.

I remember one time when I was a kid, I was selling school merchandise for a fund raiser...This one guy peeked out his window and then walked away. I took his lawn gnome.

Same reaction with the phone too. Every-single-time.

I don't like phone calls or answering doors. I am weary of the unknown and I never know how a conversation will go or who will be at the door and what they may say to me. If only I could put my door on silent...