What defines "social skilledness"?

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I think it boils down to either having the same motives as someone or knowing their motives and acting like you share them.

It's like two computers if both has MS-Win installed. You can assume they will act quite similar to the same input. However if one of them has Unix, both computers will still look the same and feel the same. But any assumptions on function and magical "telepathy" will fall flat.

As for pure brain processing, I have read about a theory where a brain with AS has higher density of neurons. But most importantly different regions of the brain has less inter-brain communications than NT. So it's harder to switch overall task.

My guess is that brain-wise NTs have more mirror neurons and some sorta of synchronization in the way information travels around the brain. Meanwhile aspies/autistics lack as much of the mirror neurons and have different ways of communication

Therefore, when NTs are young they see the body language around them and imitate it through watching older people in there surroundings and forming interactions. Adults do guide the young child to some extent but much of it is picked up through imitation or experience. Adults act in ways such as small instructions (here and there), reprimendation. Meanwhile those on the spectrum pick up little to nothing intuitively. Therefore, ideally the kid needs to be specifically taught everything and explained. Social interaction is performed consciously using a persons intellect as opposed to intuition. But depending where you are on the spectrum, socializing after excruciating practice and analysis can become intuitive (similarly to NTs) just takes longer. However many people on the spectrum cannot NT themselves socially.

I do think mirror neurons could possibly play a role; the intuitive part I'm not sure of.

I've observed that I have a very strong and trustworthy intuition, which I think I ended up quelling when I found I was labelled as a 'different' and 'naive' person.

But now I'm realizing...what if society was wrong?

I have been diagnosed with Aspergers by two leading specialists on the Eastern Seaboard (USA), yet I don't quite feel like I completely relate to the commonly-accepted persona of Aspergers.

Sure, I'm not the most socially cohesive of indivuals. Yes, I tend to ask a lot of questions to keep from making mistakes when carrying out an order. Yes, I have obsessive interests and the like. And yes, I have a lower tolerance for situational spontaneity. But...I feel like I have a greater emotional empathy and ability to express myself than what our reputation typically affords us.

It's like...I dunno, I feel like "Aspergers", according to everything I've been exposed to, is an extremely narrow definition of personality. Or have I been misinformed? ._.;;

The bolded part appears to be 'it.' And by default there isnt much to masquerade that. In some instances some feel NVLD may apply more accurately.

In some member's account of it here, I've noted the same or similar milder expressions of it.

I used to think I had some of it by the proverbial delay in the processing/reception of body language, and I just had too much sensing or awareness of a naif like persona well into my adult life.

I fit the 3rd option.