How often does an Aspie have an Aspie kid?

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Well, it happens fairly often. Consider it as more than a 50:50 chance if only one parent has ASD. Then Aspies often tend to pair off with Aspies so the chances of an ASD couple to have an ASD child are higher than 50 %, but how much higher no-one can tell, I think.

Lol! The only quiet or alone time I get now is when my Aspie son is at school or asleep! He has always been a very "full on" child who talks non-stop, demands my attention constantly, has no concept of personal place, is noisy and listens to music and TV at a very high volume, and oh, yes, doesn't require a lot of sleep so often I don't get any peace and quiet till about 2am.

Judging from what other parents here say, I don't think my son is unusual.

Yikes! I recant my previous statement.

I guess I was just thinking of a young me, content to sit in my room all day doing my own thing.

I can second what Marcia says. My daughter demands a lot of attention too. She gets more sleep than Marcia's son, but she's just 6 and she's getting less and less sleep on a daily basis. She's an awful lot of work, but amazing as well.

I'm probably on the spectrum too, but I'm almost the complete opposite of my daughter, in many respects. My issues, as a child, never affected anyone but me really. I was that dream child, who would play alone and never bothered anyone. My parents had a very easy time with me - I did absolutely everything I was asked to do and kept all my anxieties (which were many) to myself. They never even knew they had a seriously unhappy nervous wreck living in their home.

So, you really never know what you might get.

I totally agree, I never thought hormones had nearly the effect on people that they're made out to have, I didn't have much PMS until I was into my 20s, though.

But, I went on birth control for about a year and I was a totally different person.

I was calm, everything just s l o w e d d o w n and had so much depth, and I was actually noticing that I was taking time by myself to REALLY think about how things would affect other people before I made decisions, and I was just very aware of the feelings of other people in general. This is before I knew anything about AS or even thought that I might not consider the feelings of other people by default, it was just such a stark contrast to my normal behavior that it became apparent to me really quickly.

I think at that point, I wouldn't have even fit a diagnosis of ADHD which I ALWAYS fit, I was just so connected to people that I really wasn't going off into my own world at all and I wasn't the least bit hyperactive, MIND you, I was prone to mood swings and I had other physical side effects so I decided to stop taking the pills.

That said, of course there are women with AS who may present exactly the same way males do, but I do think hormones during prenatal development and hormonal changes after puberty play a big role.

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He's not diagnosed, but I'm pretty sure my father is an aspie. Other than myself and him though, my family is completely NT (unless you count the assorted crazies on my mom's side). My half-brother on my father's side is about as NT as someone can be honestly (he's a lawyer of all things. I try not to judge him too hard for that).

I can only speak from my own experience. To answer the question directly:

In my case: Every time!

(Three times, to be exact! God help me!)

I'm aspie, my parents were NT, and one of my three kids is an aspie (though all three of my kids have ADHD...I have ADHD too, and so does my husband, though he's not aspie). I did have some odd relatives on my dad's side of the family, though, so who knows?

~Kate