Putting things away

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Visual clutter/ chaos does bother me. That's part of the reason why I avoid looking at it. I don't like how it looks, but it's just too much to attempt to actually clean it. There seems to be an internal battle going on between the ADD and the ASD. The ADD seems to be winning this particular battle.
The guy I still regard as the love of my life (though it's been nearly two yewars since he ended things ) has many aspie traits himself, but no ADD traits. He was very organized and talked about how he needed things to be relatively clean and organized in order to feel reasonably comfortable psychologically. My apartment always bothered him to an extent, though I made more effort to clean and hide my mess in closets with doors that never opened when we were together. It was still too messy for him.
I remember once when he remarked that my rugs could use a vacuuming. I told him that I honestly couldn't stand the noise of a vacuum cleaner. He told me he had earplugs he used when he was vacuuming. I remember this time when I was at the apartment where he used to live. He was preparing to move out because he was leaving to attend medical school on the other side of the country. He was cleaning everything one last time in preparation to vacate the premises. When he vacuumed the carpet, he put in earplugs, and gave me a pair of earplugs to wear as well. The earplugs really were excellent for muffling the sound of the vacuum cleaner and making the noise more manageable. I really should buy myself some earplugs like that, and a vacuum cleaner as well. I don't own a vacuum cleaner. His apartment was always very neat and orderly.
It's interesting how people on the spectrum seem to be at one extreme or the other when it comes to neatness.

sounds like me alright! I'm no good at all to get things back to their proper place.

Just reading gives me a sleepy feeling. In fact, as I tried to respond to your message I was irritated that I had to register. I pressed on. I filled out all the information and clicked the OK button. A message came up that told me the username was already in use. I was irritated again and gave up because I would have to fill out all the information again. I suddenly realized that I felt like doing something else and that is what we're talking about here, right? I had to mentally will myself, which feels like such a chore, to calm down and focus in order to reregister.

I'm pretty sure I've got the Sluggish Cognitive Tempo thing. I try hard to keep up good habits and all that but they always eventually fail. I'm notorious for being unreliable in the long term. My only option to remain morally justified is just to stop making promises. I just recently turned 36 and whenever a birthday comes around I tend to think about all the things I want to do and always comes down to all the things I haven't done. I finally decided something must really be wrong with me. I'm sick of feeling the shame, ridicule, embarrasement, and guilt of not getting things done. I mean to get them done but...hell, I must just be a frakn lazy, looser of a person. But as you get older, you realize you are loosing out on relationships, getting that college degree, a good carreer... And self medicating can be a nightmare as well. It's actually nice to find out there is a physical reason in my brain for that, and that it is something I was born with as opposed to me being a moral ret*d..................see? Just now I had to go take a break. I'm not joking.

I am not hyper at all. I'm passive, introverted, deppressed, and really just kinda bored all the time. Inside I see reality just fine. I have lots of things to say but just can't articulate them. My conversation skill suck unless I'm really interested in the topic then you can't shut me up. I feel like I want to go do extreme things like skydive just to get a thrill but of course I can't organize enough to get there. I think those things just happen because of a lack of motivation. Russell Barkley describes it as a pre-frontal cortex thing. Most people can put an idea like a plan in their mind and feel emotion and motivation from it. I can think about something and pfffff... I'll do it later. I don't feel a damn thing. In fact, idle conversations and stuff like that tend to repulse me. I want to be socialble just for the sake of interacting but I just can't feel it man. I can feel hungry for hours and hours until it finally gets so irritating that I "have" to get up and make a sandwich. When cleaning, I sometimes wait till it gets so bad that it becomes a job and not a chore. But the weird part there is I can spend all day cleaning everything. It's weird, I can't do little things; it has to be a project. However, the project has to have a clear goal. I'm about out of steam. What do you think?

Same here. Most of my stuff is lucky it even ends up on furniture before it starts growing the standard inch of dust. I do try to thoroughly clean everything twice a year, but my standards are very different from everyone else's. The stack of textbooks doesn't have a sell by date, so nothing awful will happen if I just let it wait here until I have the energy to deal with it in December.

I've devised a system where, if something absolutely needs to be put away or otherwise dealt with in the near future, it sits on top of my bed so I can't sleep until I've finished it. Best. Idea. Ever.

One of my obsessions is magazines. You should see my piles of magazines all over the house!

I've tried that bit about putting it on my bed so that I would be forced to put it away. The thing is is that I simply relocate the mess to my floor so that I can go to bed.

Yeah, I tend to leave stuff out for a while too. When I do laundry, for example, it takes me a few days to get around to putting it away--I think I just get caught up in whatever I'm doing that I just don't get around to picking up or putting things away. I do clean up once a week, though, to keep things from becoming too chaotic, and I do reach a point where I simply can't function unless I tidy things up.

When I clean my room I put things on the bed because it is the only flat empty surface in the room and then when I get tired and go to bed I almost always have to move a lot of stuff to the floor so I can sleep.

Yes, I have trouble with putting things away. A lot of it has to do with getting caught up in something and I can't wait to get back into it and pure laziness. I'm not going to make excuses for myself.

it took me several years to move my empty gum boxes downstairs. then another few months to get them into the recycle bin.

If away means where i last used it