Do random strangers ever laugh at you?

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Yes it happens every now and then, I have no clue what they see, I guess I just look "weird" at times or it might be that I am lost in my own world ignoring everyone.
Also I have very sensitive hearing, so I can hear people mocking me sometimes, in which case I just say "I can hear you you know, I hear everything and I see everything". Or if I see them at another time, I say stuff like "oh how are you, you are the one who was sitting over there and you were laughing at me, right?"
Direct confrontation makes them cower!

I can never understand what "I am doing wrong". Can you give me an example? I wish I could sit with someone in real life who could say to me "just now you did this, everybody else would have done that". I just don't get it.

Or the third possibility which, based on your description of yourself, seems the most likely. Your anxiety is getting the better of you, has you convinced that people are thinking poorly of you when they are not, that they are laughing at you when they might be laughing at any one of a million other things completely unrelated to you.

No. Screw that. You do things YOUR way. Screw everyone else. We all have our own ways of doing things and dealing with things. Why try and please a narrow-minded bully? Rise above it.

In high school for my odd motor mannerisms, slow speech, poor academic performance and some other superficial things (shaving my hair off for example). They were strangers to me.

Doesn't happen now.

Certainly but I just haven't got a clue as to what I am doing "wrong", that's why I 'd love to see an example. Am I moving my eyebrows the wrong way? is it my shoulders? Personally I always choose to hang out with "odd" people that society has cast aside, as they seem more interesting, but I'd love to know why society has cast me out. I myself never judge people by how they are moving their eyebrows or shoulders etc that would be too superficial to me. I think that in a way NTs r too self centered and shallow that's why they r so judgemental, they are "the cheerleaders in the high school of this world".

No I just get weird looks, and sometimes people will think that I'm trying to act like a gangster because I always wear hoodies.

Yes, sometimes. There was this one dickhead I used to work with who did it purposely. I wish he would have gotten run over by a mack truck.

This actually just happened today. I was driving down a back road near my house, and a group of 19 year olds was sitting on their lawn, enjoying the weather. As soon as I drove past, one of them let out a boisterous laugh that I have identified as laughing at somebody else over the years, probably because my Honda Accord has an aftermarket exhaust. To 90% of people, they would see "stupid kid putting aftermarket parts on a slow Honda" because they don't know any better, but to the informed person it would be "kid is putting performance parts on a car with a power/weight ratio higher than that of some Corvettes."

Yes, this is the most realistic answer to it all, because I do know I'm not doing anything different.
But there has been times when I've actually caught people laughing directly at me, and I couldn't find another explanation for it, which made me feel even more unconfident in myself.

There was one time when a schoolgirl, aged about 13, pointed right at me and laughed loud as I went by. I just gave her a funny look, thinking, ''you f*****g weirdo''. Her mates weren't laughing at me, just this one brat.

Then there was a time when I gave in a CV to a fashion shop, and when we walked back out, my friend (who was with me) said, ''oh those girls who you gave your CV to were looking at you funny, and I saw one of them laugh.'' That made me feel depressed for the rest of the day, and I cried for ages when I got home, and I almost threatened to commit suicide. But then I remembered that my friend is a very paranoid person who seems to think everyone is staring and laughing at her, so I think this is where I've got my paranoia from, and two paranoid people are bound to believe eachother over this sort of thing. We share self-consciousness between us.

This is what it is 99% of the time. Guaranteed.

I used to be so incredibly paranoid about people laughing at me in public that I really thought every time a person even SMILED in my general direction, it was somehow about me. Then after a while I realized...they don't even know I'm here. They're talking to other people or listening to their iPod or on their phone. If you look at their eyes, they're looking right through you or past you.

People laughing at you isn't necessarily always a bad thing (unless they point and laugh horribly which doesn't normally happen does it?)

When I admire somebody, and they make me laugh a lot of the time, sometimes I cant always help sort of smiling to myself when theyre talking to somebody else or even standing around saying nothing. Its not a horrible laugh, I just sometimes smile to myself or look at them and smile a lot because I like them, feel comfortable with them, and enjoy their dry sense of humour.

Even with strangers I sometimes like the look of, and if I hear them talking to somebody else and I standing near by, I can sometimes like the way they speak in a nice way, and I think 'their making me laugh and I don't even know them' but I don't mean 'making me laugh' in a nasty way, I mean 'they have a lot of sense of humour, I can't stop acknowleding them and smiling to them a bit'. In other words I think their cool and I would like to be friends with them because of the way they walk and speak; their walking or talking carries a certain positive vibe about them.

And I read somewhere, positive vibes are more obvious than negative vibes, and more people will look at you and smile if you carry out a positive vibe, and because everybody here seems such nice people I don't see why everybody here would carry a negative vibe just because you got aspergers or some other disability. But to the paranoid eye, it is easily misinterpreted for a negative reaction and is hard to believe that it might be positive.

Oh well, I try not to be too bothered by people laughing at me because I act in a strange way. I think if people really just want to make fun of you, it's not worth your attention because they're just being offensive.

This may be the reason I intentionally act weird to begin with. If I know I'm being a weirdo, I expect looks. If I'm trying to act normal, I am not expecting to be stared at and it bothers me. *smh*

That's exactly how I feel. If I know I'm doing something odd, then it's my fault I'm getting looks, and I can then deal with it better because all I have to do is tell myself not to act that way again. But when I know I'm NOT doing anything signifficantly notable, just walking along holding myself up straight like most other people and not doing anything differently, then I get more mad when I do experience looks.

Funny, today I only caught 2 or 3 people staring at me, otherwise I didn't feel stared at or ridiculed for the rest of the day, even though I was acting the same as I do every day, and my hair and clothes style is not any different than any other day. And I felt more anxious than usual today (anxious over a job I've applied for but now not being so sure if I want this particular one), so I didn't look very confident today, that's for sure. I caught about 2 or 3 people staring, but everybody I know get stared at about 2 to 3 times a day (that's what they tell me) whereas I kept getting stared at by nearly every person that walked by (mostly women).

i had these two teenagers on the bus whisper about me saying i looked crazy and like i was about to attack them it went on for 10 minutes by time the end of this convo i admit i probably did look crazy as i was trying to keep a straight face from laughing at the absurdity of their conversation about me.