What made biggest difference for you in fitting in with NT?

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As far as blending in goes, I'm not so good at it. I can however get casual acquaintances to like me well enough.

I go out of my way to be as polite and courteous as I know how to be. In conversation I ask lots of questions; let people feel like the expert on some subject and they'll love you for it. I try to remember things they've told me about themselves and, if an appropriate situation arises, demonstrate that I remember.

I've found, when I do these things, that people are more accepting when I fail to make eye contact, or act overly formal, or do any of the hundreds of other things I do that mark me as different.

Do i fit in? No. But you don't have to fit in for people to like having you around.

Still, it kinda stops working as you get to know people better. Seems like I only have two options; either make people like me, or take care of my own needs and wants. I haven't really figured out how to do both.

I've never had trouble with facial recognition because I've always been very into portraiture.

But I suppose what made me be able to pass as just a weird kid in most mundane situations is not knowing that I had it till now. It didn't really help... but I just learned to hide. I learned to be quiet.

I watched others around me and slowly started realizing things that were socially acceptable. Just little things. Like don't blurt out. Don't tell strangers gruesome details about things. Simple stuff.