Hugs?

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It totally depends on the person.
Mostly, I do not want anyone to touch me.
The idea of a hug is nice though.

Like many people here, for me it really depends on the person. For the most part, I don't like people to touch me, including some family members. But there are a few people I feel enough connection with that I will accept their hugs, and even fewer still that I really enjoy them from and will occasionally even initiate a hug with.

For me I think it has more to do with personal space issues than anything sensory. Feels as if I'd only want to share anything like that with a significant other.

Never really figured out how to hug. None of my friends seem interested in helping with this.

Hugs always feel a bit weird to me. I can't hug a person in a serious way.

Now... I often feel the urge to hug people who matter to me.

I know, it doesn't make sense.

It depends on the person for me. If it's someone I fancy and they offer me a hug I'll happily accept!

But, to be honest, I don't really understand the rules of hugging. I live in a small town and I notice that people are always seeing others in the supermarket and saying, "Hi, haven't seen you for a while" or "Hi, how are you?" and they always seem to follow the question up with a hug and often a kiss on the cheek. It's something I wish I could do so naturally like they can and it upsets me that I can't. But I never know when it's appropriate to hug someone or if they really want me touching them. I'm scared of rejection, too.

I can give hugs to friends if it feels necessary, but I've never really initiated a hug with a friend, unless it was when I was younger and my mom told me to. I also can't really fully hug them and I have to do this sort of one armed side hug, but with my family, I can hug my immediate family, but generally no one else, or the same rules apply as with friends. I certainly hardly ever hug anyone without thinking about it very thoroughly the entire time I'm doing it. I guess this would be related to aspergers. I never really thought about it though, untIl now, and I'm not formally diagnosed as of yet.

I feel awkward giving people hugs, but I like receiving them as long as they don't take me by surprise.

It depends on the person for me. Usually they have to be very close. Likemy dad. Actually I dislike being hugged by anyone, but made an exception when it came to my family.

Love hugs from close friends family, don't touch me if you're not them. People who casually touch in a conversation bother me. The worst thing anyone can do is grab and pull my clothes.

I love hugs... Especially big giant bear-hugs... Only a few of my friends know how to give a big giant bear-hug... So every time I see them I get one...

I love hugs whenever i can get them. I wanted to be social but never could figure out how to be social and no one helped. It makes me wonder how many of us against the walls were aspies or are today. I would love to be more social but just do not know how to be social in many ways and then do something that makes me leave in embarassment so now i am hermit, not because i want to be, but because i can't find places to be social that lead to anything at all and i tried a bunch.

I like hugs only when I want them.

I am fine with them. I don't have the sensory issues. But if it is a stranger I am uncomfortable.

It depends on the person. For the most part, I'm not a big fan of hugs and I tend to avoid them. But my closest friends can give me hugs because they are aware of my aversion and know how to hug me properly so as not to make them uncomfortable or distressing for me.

I don't like hugging anybody. First of all, I hate showing affection and second of all it's too much into my personal space.