28 years old and never had a driver's license.

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Personally, driving is one of my obsessions and I take it seriously

If i could rewrite the laws, licensing would be extremely difficult - Too many bad drivers

I had three driving lessons and I was doing better than I thought I would. This was years and years ago. But I quit for two reasons: 1) college started, so off I went; 2) my paranoid ass thought that they were using me as a "cash cow" and that they'd never graduate me. #2 may have been the case with one of the schools and not the other.

35 lessons, you said?

I think I'll do that again.

Also, would phobia treatment work for an Aspie? Because we're more sensori-motor deficient than we are scared. So would it work? Like, the virtual reality driving sim that I described?

i'm 26 and too clumsy for driving aswell

Excuse me? Where did you get those stats?

Uh-oh...

I don't have a license either. Driving is difficult and nervewracking. I also live in an area where driving is a necessity, so I'm in a bit of a predicament.

I'm not very fund of harsh laws but I can agree on this one. A motorcycle or car license in this country is for life and will only be revoked for good if you commit a really gross crime or get physically and/or psychically totally disabled by disease.

I always was confused that the gun laws in my country were so harsh but that any jerk that wasn't severly handicapped or a mass murderer could get the confidence from the state to drive a metal piece of 1-2 tons at high velocities very easily.

They state that the driving tests have been harshed up, but that not reflects in peoples' driving. Not at all. The best car drivers in Europe are the Germans. They drive fast (legally) but mostly very good.

Problem is, they don't take those unsure jerks, who can't control their vehicles properly, they fee the ones who violate the speed limits. They also are very tolerant against drunk drivers(!)
One f*****g court in this country freed a guy who had driven through Germany, Denmark and most of Sweden drunk in his truck, because he had "mental problems" and suffered from depression. If he'd been waving with a gun, they wouldn't have "understood" him at all but taken his license for good and maybe put him in jail for a year or so. Another person, put on trial in the same court for killing a grandmother and her child whilst driving drunk, only got 1½ year in prison, which means that he will get out after 1 year or less. And he was convicted for driving drunk before...That time even the timid Swedes were so outraged that the Chief Public Prosecutor turned to the Supreme Court to make the man get a harder punishment, but they refused to bring the case up again...

I think there is a tremendous difference between aspies with additional handicaps, for example ADHD and/or motor skill problems and those who are mostly "socially incompetent". I myself have a few poor motor skills but not very severe, more "clumsiness". They have as good as no impact on my driving. When I'm driving I'm perfectly able to focus on the driving, since, like Corvus, I've made driving one of my obsessions.

So where does that put women that are Aspies? Sounds kinda well presumptuous to make a generalization like that without valid proof.

And, if I may be so bold, I may have started driving a little late (most teens are pretty excited about getting their licence; I couldn't have cared less at the time - it wasn't one of my "obsessions"), I'd like to state that I do drive well, not for a woman, not for an aspie, but for a human. I'm capable of staying very calm in situations that stress most people.

And I use my built-in distance / speed measurer while driving - it's pretty damn useful.

Now, that being said, I will agree that many bad drivers are women, I think it's because their spacial abilities are limited... in comparison to most men's. I've never heard any stats about aspie drivers though.

The fact that I've freaked out and lost control...

[I wouldn't call it a panic attack because I would be able to recover from such episodes in about a minute or two; there were days when I would have three or four over a period of a few hours before my dad would refuse to go any further.]

...does that mean that, in the clinical sense, I shouldn't drive?

I mean, am I a ticking time bomb who would slam into a mini-van full of kids and turn it into a horrible make-the-troopers-puke Car-B-Q at the drop of a hat?